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To be glad to get rid of DP?

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CupcakesK · 22/08/2020 17:34

He is finally going back to work on Monday after 5 months of WFH!

I’ve been on mat leave, which started a week into lockdown and I’m so excited to finally have something close to the mat leave I anticipated. I can’t wait for all of the things DS and I will be doing together.

Obvs feel a teeny bit sorry for DP as he’ll miss our DS. AIBU?

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Original poster
CupcakesK · 22/08/2020 17:35

Lighthearted thread for everyone else glad that they/DP are going back to work

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steff13 · 22/08/2020 17:36

What has he stopped you from doing with your son?

ClaraJude · 22/08/2020 17:36

What has he stopped you from doing...?

WorraLiberty · 22/08/2020 17:37

I can’t wait for all of the things DS and I will be doing together.

Like what?

Brokensunrise · 22/08/2020 17:44

Also asking what he’s stopped you from doing! But maybe if you have a small house and got to be quiet all the time etc?

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CupcakesK · 22/08/2020 17:49

Errrr, lockdown....?!

Also happens to coincide with some baby groups opening again, swimming pool opening etc. Until now, pretty much the only thing we’ve been able to do is walks in the park and in the past couple of weeks have visited some cafes. Lots of places really aren’t buggy-friendly/baby friendly now social distancing is a thing (lack of baby changing facilities open, breastfeeding facilities)

DP hasn’t stopped me from doing anything, he hasn’t been as busy with work so all of the usual things I would be doing around the house, he helps with. As I’m on mat leave to look after a baby sometimes that leaves me without much to do

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Notreallyhappy · 22/08/2020 17:52

No enjoy your time together....... sometimes the Mr just gets in the way

Thripp · 22/08/2020 17:53

"I married you for better or worse, but not for lunch". There is a reason for this saying.

I was always immensely relieved when my husband went back to work if he'd had even a few days off, never mind five months. I liked my routine with the children, and they liked their routine with me.

I couldn't stand him doing domestic stuff, either. He just got in the way.

MintyMabel · 22/08/2020 18:02

he hasn’t been as busy with work so all of the usual things I would be doing around the house, he helps with. As I’m on mat leave to look after a baby sometimes that leaves me without much to do

You’re complaining because your partner was helping out around the house too much?

anon5000 · 22/08/2020 18:06

I get you, OP. You don't have to be permanently joined at the hip to your DP. It's nice to do your own thing and have the house to yourself sometimes.

MyLifeIsFictional · 22/08/2020 18:08

he hasn’t been as busy with work so all of the usual things I would be doing around the house, he helps with. As I’m on mat leave to look after a baby sometimes that leaves me without much to do

Bless. Smile

Shr1881 · 22/08/2020 18:08

I suspect I’m going to go against 99% of comments here but I’ve loved having DH around while he’s WFH!

Shitfuckoh · 22/08/2020 18:10

@MintyMabel

he hasn’t been as busy with work so all of the usual things I would be doing around the house, he helps with. As I’m on mat leave to look after a baby sometimes that leaves me without much to do

You’re complaining because your partner was helping out around the house too much?

Glad I'm not the only one who thought that whilst reading it. It's usually the opposite issues! Grin
TheCanyon · 22/08/2020 18:13

Honestly I nearly three a party when dh went back to work, was much more exciting than the dc going back to school.

Enjoy it @CupcakesK

Littlemissdaredevil · 22/08/2020 18:22

I was thrilled when DH went back to work 2 weeks after I had DS. I like to get into a little routine and DH just sit their completely clueless and gets in the way like an extra child that needs the snot wiped off his face. At the weekend it takes far longer to get out the house with DH faffing meaning that we leave late, have lunch late and the DD naps late and becomes hysterical.

Dorobie · 22/08/2020 18:23

I love it when DH goes to work... I'm a lot more adventurous and laid back than him and will just go out anywhere on a whim, whereas he is always more reserved and puts things off... or says 'why? would you want to do that?!. Drives me mad!

I like having autonomy.

Reclinehard · 22/08/2020 18:39

I completely understand where you're coming from! I used to look forward to Mondays even though it could be difficult.

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CupcakesK · 22/08/2020 20:06

I’m so glad it’s not just me! Will be pleased we have some new things to talk about when DP gets home from work

I’ll probably regret this in a few days when none of the housework is done and DS won’t let me put him down without screaming Grin

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ClaraJude · 22/08/2020 21:54

I get what you mean now - it’s just that your OP suggested you were glad to be getting rid of your DP because he was stopping you doing baby things, when actually it’s just that baby things haven’t been running.

Enjoy the time! I hope it goes well.

coffeeandjuice · 23/08/2020 08:16

I'm with you cupcakek I love the routine of groups, my oh going to work and then being excited about spending the weekend with him.

Enjoy the rest of your maternity leave!

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