To get irritated when DP says things just to get a reaction?

[littlemisspigg]

DP let slip one day that he says things sometimes just to get a reaction from people, especially those who appear to be in control of their emotions. Is this normal? Should I assume he does this to me as well?

It’s quite cruel to manipulate people,to elicit a response.
Presumably he gets pleasure thinks it’s funny? What’s he like as a person overall?
Do you recall times he’s been provocative to you?

Yes assume he does it to you. When he 'let slip' this nugget of information that is exactly what he was doing.

Yup he will be doing it the one and all as he likes the thrill. He must be twisted if he can’t just be happy instead of having to manipulate people into being angry or hurt or whatever at what he says. Sick.

Run like hell. Forewarned is fair warned.

'What an immature twat, I definitely won't marry or have kids with this emotional disaster zone'

is the response that should have popped into your head.

Of course he does it to you. He just did.

OP I’m not sure you will get anything other than the default LTB answer to your question. You could have asked “my DP forgets to turn the lights off when he leaves the room” and you would have got the same answers, he’s cruel, he twisted, he’s gaslighting you. Good luck.

He's a textbook goady fucker, @littlemisspigg, and I agree 100% with @FizzyGreenWater - he's demonstrated what an immature twat he is, and no way should you be considering marriage/relationship/kids with someone like this.

I guess it depends what he says and in what context. I think its human nature to play devils advocate to some extent, people can debate an alternative viewpoint without believing it. But if it's an insult or saying something controversial or racist etc to see what people say then that's just being nasty because he enjoys it. Does he piss you off or make you angry with things he says?

It’s obnoxious, disingenuous and arrogant. Who does he think he is that he gets to deliberately upset other people for his own entertainment? What is so special about him? It is a control thing and ime people who do this can have low self confidence/esteem so go for the ever-lovely putting others down to make you feel better about yourself. Does he always have to be right, have the last word? Does he admit to being wrong? Does he always have to win, especially with children?

I would find this piece of information worrying.

I don't think there is enough information here for people to pass judgement on what sort of person he is. What sort of things does he say and what type of reaction is he trying to get?

If he is saying deliberately nasty or hurtful things to see if he can upset people then of course he is being a git.

But if he is putting forward a controversial or opposing viewpoint to someone who is complacent in their opinions maybe less so