What makes you feel uncomfortable?

[AmberTurnerCo]

I would say
Having to do talks in front of big crowds of people.

My boss!

Being disheveled in the morning when I wake up. Can’t wait to shower, wash hair and get ready for the day. I also agree about spa days, definitely not for me, being seen looking a mess in a robe, yuk!

I’m good at public speaking though and enjoy it!

Men who wink. Creepy

Mixing business with friendship. Please do not ask me to buy your old Chanel handbag/Arbonne products/homemade, not-my-style, jewellery/Zumba class.

I will however put you in touch with good recruiters/suggest your consultancy/Zumba class to my contacts where relevant and where I think you are actually likely to be good/look over your CV/do interview practice.

Former makes me feel hugely uncomfortable but latter feels absolutely fine.

Mingling/Networking

I have no problems giving a speech to a crowd though, it feels much safer.

Public speaking
Big social obligations which my children are invited to too. They're still little so I spend most of my time at christenings watching them and dont get to mingle much so then feel like an awkward outsider

Small talk, being early and having to do small talk

Small talk but only with a certain subset of people. Strangers- fine. Friends and colleagues etc. - fine. But it's with people who aren't complete strangers but you don't know well enough to be a friend or whatever. Hideously uncomfortable- especially when unexpected like the poster above.

And I'm another one enjoying social distancing because no one is trying to hug me

@ItsAlwaysSunnyOnMN

My mother

Ditto

And walking down the long corridor at work when someone is walking towards me. They are just as uncomfortable as I am though. There’s no way around it.

suddenly needing a poop in public toilets

Being near males.

Team building exercises
Networking

Confrontational people.

Karaoke

Big cities. Too many people, too much noise, not enough green space.

Public attention seeking makes me cringe. E.g., inappropriate public displays of affection.

Lone singers in groups, especially those who try to hit a note (but do so teeribly).

Posh accents also make me uncomfortable. Theres something quite archaic and anti-progressive about "upper class" voices.

When you’ve just met someone (usually other women/occasionally men) and they instantly become very ott with affectations “oh hunni!”, “sweetie”, “ahhhh bless you/bless your heart” and hugging/air kissing very soon after meeting - it’s never been a good sign going forward.

People who ask lots of questions

Dating

Being stared at

New situations often make me crumble; new job, moving house etc. Even sometimes going to a new holiday destination!

Being around drunk people

People getting in my personal space

Being asked to do my job for free or mates rates

Being asked “CAN YOU DO ME A HUGE FAVOUR? ” or “right. What are you doing this Wednesday?”/ “Are you free on 22nd August?” etc... tell me why you want to know before you get me to commit to something I don’t want to do!

Men who ogle women and young girls in public make me very, very uncomfortable. Hate it when it happens to me too.

Walking past builders, groups of men, etc
with the kids I'm pretty invisible
But I still cringe Everytime

Being photographed.
Not even my own mother has any photos of me as an adult.
Work type photos, evenings out photos. No. Absolutely not. I just refuse and offer to take the picture.

Meetings at work. My imposter syndrome takes over.

Anyone touching me, I don’t do massages spa treatments.

My hairdresser. The continuous, non stop droning voice, on and on and on with no coming up for air telling me conversations she has had with people I don’t know about shite I’m not interested in. It’s draining keeping the interested face up for that 30 minutes of my life. I get the jitters as the appointment approaches.

And people.

Being alone in a room with a male.

People leaning on the back of my office chair while I'm sat in it

Right-handed people