To want to sit in the corner and cry

[CMOTDibbler]

2020 has been shite. My dad died, my mum died, MIL is dying, work is hell, dhs work is insanely busy and stressful, obv homeschooling ds while both working long ft hours at home.
And we had booked a week camping from today to destress. Halfway through packing and dh goes upstairs to do an email. Sits down and his knee goes crack and he can't move it, can't stand, is in screaming (actually crying properly) with the pain.
So now, instead of being at our fave campsite, he's in A&E after an ambulance trip, and I'm at home. I am worried about what has happened to him, but tbh this feels like the straw that has broken the camels back

I can't imagine doing anything else at this point in time apart from cry if I was in your shoes. What a horrendous year. I hope your husband is seen quickly and recovery isn't too awful. It sounds like you are desperately in need of a break and I hope you get one soon.

What a year. Completely understand what you mean about the straw that broke the camel’s back. Sounds like you deserve a bit of a cry if you need one!

Oh I’m so sorry, that us a truly horrendous year you’ve had and now this. Thinking of you and hoping your dh makes a speedy recovery.

Have a good cry, then make yourself a cup of tea. Then have another cry.

What a terrible year.

Oh, and no break until christmas now as we had compulsory holiday weeks (one when we couldn't go anywhere if we wanted, and the other still in UK term time) and with the shutdown at Christmas, this was all my holiday gone.
May need to eat my bodyweight in chocolate

Oh OP, you’ve been through the wringer. I’m so sorry. I hope your poor husband’s knee is ok, and I hope you get the break you need and deserve soon

Oh OP that sounds horrendous by any measure. Be kind to yourself. Eat chocolate if you want to. I hope you’re DH recovers quickly.

I'm sorry that all sounds awful.

Not much I can say but I hope your dh will be ok and that you can get away for a break at some stage.
I'm sorry for your losses too. I lost my dad to covid this year and had a few bereavements last few years so I know how hard that is is cope with : you've had a lot to deal with this year and it takes it's toll on your health losing a loved one.
Be kind to yourself : let us know how he is doing.

Be kind to yourself. Everything I type seems so trite - a dreadful year.

YANBU - sometimes a good cry is needed, and you've been through an awful time by the sound of it. I'm sorry for your losses, I lost both parents in 2016 so I know how hard that double bereavement is. This seems to be your worst year ever, so chances are next year will be better for you.

Knees are very awkward things when they go wrong, but hopefully your DH will get help quickly. Maybe in a way the knee problem will be a good thing, as it will force him to slow down and focus on his health a bit. Also, rain is predicted most days for the next week or so, so perhaps the camping trip might have been a washout anyway (plus would have been awful if the knee gave way while camping).

Take care of yourself and focus on better times to come.

@CMOTDibbler my year is similar to yours. With the added stress of selling a house now so many money worries.

Just sending you hugs.

I’m looking forward to 2021. We’ll get through this - if I say it enough I’ll start believing it xxx

Cry it out, honey.

Sweet hot tea

Plan at least a little something to look forward to.

Hope your dh heals quickly.

Have a huge sobbing snotty cry at the unfairness of it all, scream and punch a pillow and let every emotion you have out.

Make yourself a cup of tea, mentally write this whole year off as a bad un, and start writing down plans for next year.

Hope your dh is ok

and kind thoughts

I am not surprised you feel like crying, you have every right to do so/

Let it out. Ring a friend and get her to bring wine....and chocolate and a take away.

Cry on sweetheart. I'll join you - dad died in a care home where we couldn't visit. FIL dies in hospital 2 weeks later(couldn't see him). My mum is unwell and suffering from depression, my MIL is waiting to die, we wanted to move this year But it all went a bit bad so have given up.

I’ve cried at a lot less.

Go for it. That and the chocolate. I’m sorry for your loss and the rest

Thanks everyone. DH is home now in a big splint and crutches with an appointment for fracture clinic on Monday. They thought he might have fractured something as his knee can't be bent, but nothing obvious on the x rays, so maybe 'just' ruptured ligaments. This knee is knackered anyway, but the pain is in a new league and its blown up like a football.

Eating jellybabies and planning a chippy tea

Hope his knee is OK, definitely recommend big cry, chocolate and beverage of your choice

Get some wine or gin to go with your tea.

Had a cry, a bath, and too many chips last night. The campsite have given us a credit note for the full amount (even the deposit) which is incredible as I didn't expect anything, just wanted them to be able to let someone else have the pitch.
We have a plan for dh to get preauthorisation on Monday morning to go back to the private one stop knee clinic he has been to before, go to fracture clinic and see what they say, then get a referral to the private centre. At least if this knee was finally giving up, then now would be the time to have surgery when theres no work travel to miss.

What a year! I'm so sorry. Hope your DH recovers.

Poor you - that's a hell of a year. I hope you all manage at least to get a rest and enjoy each others' company this week (and that painkillers do their job). Even if you're at home, switch off the email, spend what you would have done on the campsite and holiday entertainment on some fun things to do at home together, watch some movies, eat takeaways.

Oh this is crap. You deserve a wallow. Sometimes a good cry just gets iflt out of your system and actually helps. If you're off this week can you plan some nice things at home? For me that would revolve around eating!! Fave films as nd TV? Any hobbies like craft or board games?

Oh what a horrible year OP. Be gentle on yourself, I can’t imagine how you are coping. Dream of a fabulous 2021. Massive hugs.