To ask you to share your dating and relationship success stories after DA marriage?

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Just that. Posting this for the benefit of other DA survivors too. On AIBU for traffic. Thank you.

Anyone?

Would you like to share your story?

@MaskingForIt I don't have a success story, yet, which is why I posted asking for others. I would like to see whether it's possible in this day and age.

I can share my story of DA if needs be. I'm kind of getting to the point of giving up on dating and relationships because I've become too accustomed to enjoying my own company, the dating pool seems very limited and it all seems too much of a faff.

At the back of my head, though, I would like companionship. Where we just enjoy each other's company, respect one another and have physical intimacy. I'm not after a fairy tale romance.

almost 3 years and a big fat 0!
3 different first dates. That's as far as it's got!

My mum's first husband was a violent alcoholic. He hit her and my elder brother and sister, and eventually left her for another woman who he also abused.

After a few years she met my dad, who is soft as pudding and had me and my sister, and assumed full parental responsibility for my elder half siblings. They've just reached their Silver anniversary.

@Yellowcakestand I'm sorry to hear that. 😔 The only 'success' I've had with dating is a friendship. He seems to have problems with communication (not just with me) so for the best we're just friends.

@thecatsthecats Lovely to read your mum's ' happy ever after' after such appalling treatment. I do wonder how many women today, in the 21st century, get to experience after years of DA.

I would say that I haven't really asked her about her 'dating' after DA, but I thought I'd mention that she met my dad through a mutual hobby. He was the one who pursued a relationship, and proposed after an absurdly short amount of time - she turned him down!

But they did eventually marry.

I'm not really a 'dating' person myself, and it doesn't seem very natural to me at all - worse so if you come with emotional scars and sore places.

I met someone really soon after leaving a dv relationship of 20 years. I really liked him but played it cool and was happy with friendship as I was lonely. (I’ve no close friends or family) however I met him through a family member that he is friends with.
We went out for dinner, messaged and called each other a lot then went away for weekend together after 6 months, then it progressed into spending weekends together and he moved in after a year.
We’ve been a couple 5 years and I’m really really happy.
I left me ex for a future prepared to be on my own and though at the time being on my own was better than being in a very unhappy relationship especially with children.
All is good except for occasional bouts of contact from the children’s father attempting to make things difficult.

@thecatsthecats I feel uncomfortable dating too. Especially as I'm nearly 40 and not the naive young lady I was when I met ex.

@Blueskysunsout Thank you for sharing your story. Have the same thing with ex causing difficulties from time to time, though he lives far away.

After leaving the ex I had no interest in dating and really focused on myself and making me happy.
19 months later I felt I would like to have some fun and used tinder and POF, Lots of texting and a few random dick pics later I met a decent guy and saw him maybe once or twice a month for a nice meal and some fantastic sex. A FWB situation
Just before meeting him I had had an amazing ONS with a guy who lives locally.
FWB guy didn't work out as he lived too far away and neither of us really had the time.
Bumped into ONS guy six months after we has slept together and started chatting via messenger......We have been together over three years now and he is a diamond (if somewhat messy)

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@MovinOnUp Same here. Only started dating 20 months in. And even then only twice. Slept with a man a couple of times, it was very short lived as he turned out to be a narc.

I'm really attracted to the man I've formed a sort of friendship with, though I dont think I'm his type, which is fine because we can't all be everyone's cup of tea. Wouldn't mind FWB situation him though, as i really enjoy and miss sex, though we're both shy, him even more so.

And just recently I've understood who I'm attracted to. Physically, emotionally.