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To say that I'm not enjoying my pregnancy?

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bluemoon2468 · 21/08/2020 08:43

Obviously I'm so grateful to be pregnant with a healthy baby and it will all be worth it in the end, but I really haven't enjoyed much of being pregnant at all. It's been relatively straightforward other than severe morning sickness throughout the first 16 weeks, but other than that it's been relatively plain sailing. I'm now 34 weeks and just very uncomfortable and looking forward to it being over. I just want my body back 🙈 There hasn't really been much of it at all I've enjoyed particularly. I'm constantly hearing some women (aka my mother predominantly) go on and on about how it was such a magical time, they felt so feminine and special, they're so sad they'll never be pregnant again, they would do it again in a heartbeat etc. etc. I can't identify with that at all... I'm genuinely dreading the fact that I'll probably go through all of this again one day. Surely there are other mothers out there that feel/felt like me?

P.S. I totally appreciate how lucky I am to be pregnant, that loads of women can't have children and would love to be in my position etc. etc. but I don't think that invalidates my own feelings. Be kind please 🙏🏻

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Wecandothis99 · 21/08/2020 09:34

I'm the same. It's way too long. For anyone to actually enjoy it. I vote we change it to 3 months

mongoosebaby · 21/08/2020 09:39

I do not enjoy being pregnant. I wish I did, but I feel constantly sick, tired, emotional
and uncomfortable. Other people seem to glow, enjoy holidays, baby showers etc, etc. I just make it through each day at a time. I do love being a mum though, which is why I've put myself through it for the second time!

notangelinajolie · 21/08/2020 09:42

Being pregnant was horrible for me for many of the reasons above. YANBU.

wigglerose · 21/08/2020 09:44

I'm 19+2 and I'm sick of being pregnant. I hate it. I'm looking forward to the outcome, but I' m not enjoying myself. I was actually disappointed I wasn't having twins because we want two and I would be pleased to have it done with one pregnancy to be honest!

Lowhangingfruit · 21/08/2020 09:46

I hated being pregnant, constant fear due to miscarriages. HG, kidney infections, infected gallbladder. Tiredness. Only plus side I lost weight! Plus the children....

Muchtoomuchtodo · 21/08/2020 09:51

It can’t say that I enjoyed either of my straightforward pregnancies.

I hated the lack of control I had about my ever changing appearance. I hated the way that everyone thought it was ok to comment on that and even try to touch my tummy as if it was public property.

My body was amazing and did just what it needed to do to give us 2 amazing children but I definitely can’t claim to have felt any of those gushing emotions about it.

unmarkedbythat · 21/08/2020 09:54

I totally appreciate how lucky I am to be pregnant, that loads of women can't have children and would love to be in my position etc. etc. but I don't think that invalidates my own feelings

No, it absolutely does not. I hate when people try and dismiss someone's issues with a "well lots of people would do anything to be in your situation" type response. I always think, and? So what?

I hope it gets better for you, OP. The end is in sight!

bluemoon2468 · 21/08/2020 10:34

@Muchtoomuchtodo yes about commenting on my appearance! I've actually been lucky enough to not put on much weight at all bump aside, so people's comments are overwhelmingly positive, generally about how 'neatly' I'm carrying, how it'll be so easy for me to get back into shape etc. But I do reflect regularly on how weird it is that it's okay for everyone to look at my body, judge it and comment on it 😬 It also makes me feel a lot of pressure not to put any weight on the rest of my body because I've 'done so well' so far. It's led to some quite obsessive weighing 😔 And I feel a lot of pressure to lose the weight quickly afterwards because apparently it'll be 'easy' for me...

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KylieKangaroo · 21/08/2020 10:43

I hated it too, I felt depressed most of the way through! I think it's a huge ask on a woman's body and health, nothing magic about that!

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