Do you dress your baby girls in blue & green?

[hireaskipandclearout]

DC1 was a boy, I dressed him in gorgeous funky prints, reds, greens, orange yellow and of course the boy staple blue. I generally only avoided black and wasn't so keen on grey, but I did have it.

DC2 is a girl and I finding so many multipacks have what I would consider as dull boy colours in them. So M&S or next a pack of bodysuits has one blue one or green leggings in a set. Am I being U to not want to dress choose these for my DD? Obviously when she's older (like DS ) she can pick, but I want her to look like a girl as a baby. I don't do hair bands and ott dresses, I want normal everyday clothes but in like pink, dusky pinks, white, peach, yellow, Liliac. Am I totally on my own here ?

Yes I dressed her in any colour. She’s 14 and I found the opposite. Everything was pink! It was a nightmare finding anything else.

I just wish people would stop buying into gendered clothes.

My daughter is now 11, she's autistic and hates any obviously 'girly' clothes. I would just buy her boys clothes BUT she has a very slender frame and they just don't fit correctly. She does wear them but they look dreadful.

Try finding ANYTHING in her age range that is not frilly or has a slogan or has glitter/ crop topped. It's impossible.

No wonder sone girls that don't buy into this gendered nonsense are being convinced they are not really girls.

It's crazy.

Dress your baby as you wish but really think about what you are buying into.

I agree with the avalanche of pink in girls clothing. Even the teen ranges are a wash with pink, frills, glitter and unicorns.

Even a basic black swimsuit must have pink running through it!

The first major store to recognise this issue will make a killing.

Personally, I really dislike the excessively gendered clothing you get for babies.
DD has colouring that really doesn't suit those grim washed out pastels. So most of her early baby clothes were blue, green and yellow, with a bit of hot pink.

Oh FGS! There are NO 'boy' or 'girl' colours!!!

This.

They will have to deal with enough stereotypical shit as they grow up so why, as a parent, do you want to start this at home?

I used to drive past a primary school on my morning commute and I would ‘play a game’ to try and find a girl without any pink on them. It shouldn’t have been difficult bearing in mind they were in school uniform but it was near on impossible to find a girl without some pink on their coat / in their hair / on their school bag.

The boys had so many more colour options and it was easy to find one without, for example, blue, red or green.

@SueEllenMishke because the OP and parents like her don't realise the long term implications of their behaviour.

I tend to put my ds in bright colours and the same for my dd. When my dd was a baby I thought and still do that she looked beautiful in all colours. She does suit pastels more than her brother. Ds had a lot of his sister's hand me downs as a baby but I wouldn't tend to put him in anything frilly (to be fair I didn't like frilly stuff on dd either but got given a lot as gifts). My dd is 4 now and very girly, bright colours and sparkles are her thing but then I wear a lot of clothes like that too so maybe she just models me.

Ds likes to pick out his own clothes but seems to be more aware of 'boys' and 'girls' clothes. Doesn't stop him from dressing up as a princess when playing dress up with his sister.

I would try asda or morrisons for the kind of multi packs you would like.

@SueEllenMishke because the OP and parents like her don't realise the long term implications of their behaviour.

It's so depressing

I dressed them in whatever colours and clothes I liked. Usually led by what was in the charity shop or second hand baby sales that day.

because the OP and parents like her don't realise the long term implications of their behaviour.

What are the long term implications?

Can't my 12 year old is dressed in non frilly non pink clothes 🙄.
H and m, zara, mango, boden... Asda...
She chooses her own now and has quite a sophisticated style! Nothing cropped either.

What are the long term implications?

Really? You don't understand the impact of gender stereotypes?

Diceroll

The notion that girls like pink and boys like blue plays into the current narrative that gender is more significant than sex.

Gender stereotypes perpetuate the myth that men are more capable than women who must like pink and frilly things otherwise they are not real women.

It's a load of harmful bollocks. People/ children who do not conform to these harmful stereotypes are being encouraged to believe that they have been born into the wrong body rather than people accepting that we are all different and all like different things.

As I have an autistic daughter who does not like pink and frilly I feel particularly bothered by this kind of thing.

[quote MsSquiz]@hireaskipandclearout next do multipacks of pinks and lilacs in romper suits, which I find easier for DD to move about in.

We also have this blue floral multipack of rompers, which are more "girlie" than plain rompers [/quote]
They're lovely.

I do like navy on both sexes. It's suited all my DGC.

Yes I do understand gender stereotypes, but as OP said this:

Obviously when she's older (like DS ) she can pick

I don't see the fact that a parent wants to dress their child in certain colours an issue. If the OP said my child is 4 and really wants to wear blue, but I keep telling her no, that's a colour for boys then that's different, but that's not what she is saying. What happens if you genuinely just like pink anyway? Does that mean you're not ever going to be able to smash glass ceilings?

Oh FGS! There are NO 'boy' or 'girl' colours!!!

I totally agree with this, but I think it’s important to recognise that as a parent it is HARD to avoid these shitty stereotypes.

I’m sick of colours like yellow and pink being plastered with florals, frills, bows, unicorns and glitter. I’m sick of colours like red, navy and green being covered in trucks, cars and dinosaurs. It’s so prescriptive, and while you can of course dress your boys in frills and your girls in trucks, you shouldn’t have to. There should be enough different patterns and colours (and combinations of both) out there to genuinely give you the opportunity to dress your baby in a neutral way, rather than simply putting a girl in clothes that are obviously coded for boys or vice versa. It really pisses me off how ostentatiously so many clothing companies try to associate particular clothes with tired gender stereotypes.

I don't think you do understand fully.

The fact we are assigning colour to gender in the first place is an issue. It's the start of a long list of what is considered acceptable for a girl or boy to wear/act/do.......

I don't think you do understand fully.

Ah yes must be as I like the colour pink, my comprehension isn't quite as good, apologies.

Boy colours? Girl colours? Are people never going to get past these awful gender stereotypes?

hireaskipandclearout

I hope you work for M&S as you’ve inspired me to purchase those bodysuits for DD I love the colours in them and it’s a good mix.

I guess the world would be boring if we were all the same.

I'm always amazed at the uncomfortable clothes people dress their babies in. Frilly dresses. Jean's and jackets etc. My son wore all in ones until he was too big for those then mothercare did lovely comfy, soft dungarees in stretchy fabric and little soft tracksuits. Anything stretchy and comfortable.

I bought for DD what I liked, from the girls and the boys section in all shops.

When she was born I was given lots of hand-me-downs from a friend with one girl and two boys, so all kind of stuff in a variety of colours. I found that pale colours do not suit DD so I stayed away from pastels.

I was given pink items as gifts and so she wore them.

But otherwise, colour does not define a child and I liked that DD didn't look like your sterotype boy/girl and if she was mistaken for a boy that's life, it hasn't damaged her in the slightest.

Ah yes must be as I like the colour pink, my comprehension isn't quite as good, apologies.

Don't be ridiculous....but if you genuinely don't think there is an issue with 'girl' colours and 'boy' colours then you really don't understand the issue.

FYI I don't have any issue with people liking pink but i do have an issue with people insisting it's a girls colour and pushing that view onto young children.

Gender stereotypes are harmful and this is how it starts.

I couldn't have cared less what sex complete strangers thought my baby was. This is about somebody else's marketing strategy and whilst I have plenty of issues with M&S this wouldn't be one of them.

Gender has no colour code.