To feel like this

[dressssy]

So ive been with bf for about a year and a half, when i met him i was prob 1 dress size smaller or maybe half a dress size smaller. We have both put on weight, due to just date nights and lockdown.

He is following a few pages on instagram of girls that are very toned and work out alot!

He is also always checking girls out but openly its kind of a jokey thing, for eg we will be in the car i will see someone i know he would look at and i'll look at him and he will laugh.

Yesterday he said im not the prettiest girl in the world - LOL. That sounds hilarious. Obviously im no where near, but still, your bf should still say you are right?

Also i just get the feeling hes embarrassed of me when were in public and theres still some of his friends i haven't met.

Im about a size 16/18

He is just generally not complimentary, never tells me i look nice etc.

Am i right to be feeling a bit shitty? And like he would rather be with a skinnier prettier girl?

You're not being unreasonable. If he doesn't make you feel good now then you need to consider whether he's right for you. He isn't going to suddenly change in 5/10/15 years.

You can do better.
You don’t need someone making you feel shitty.
How does he react when you openly eye up men?

Get rid OP. He will only get worse. You can do better ❤️

You deserve so much better.

@OhMyDarling Thats another thing, ive never been like that, i can appreciate a good looking man but its not in my nature to openly make it known.

However lately, i will say something, more to see how hr reacts if there is an element of jealousy or not, sounds utterly juvenile i know. Thing is, he is so jokey so he laughs it off. Or it backfires and gives him the green light to keep looking at women

Why is he with you if you’re not his type and he likes athletic women? Is he just using you for something?

Does he hold your hand in public? Does he show he cares at all, a wee affectionate touch on the arm or getting up early to make your favourite tea or whatever?

It shouldn’t matter if you’ve put on a few pounds. You’re still the same woman you were a year ago when you started dating. Has he always felt you were not the most attractive woman? Or is this a new development?

If he isn’t that into you and not very complimentary I don’t think I’d be hanging about. The longer you are with him the longer you won’t be able to find a better guy who wants you for who you are.

I had an ex who said I was now too fat at size 14 and he was no longer physically attractive to him. Fair enough although it was only one dress size up since I met him at a size 12 but each to their own. However he subsequently moved in with a girl who is a size 18. So I don’t think it’s a size thing. I just think it’s an excuse and if you’re the one for him he’d make you feel it. You feel hurt and shamed by him.
Time to go.

He’s being hurtful and you’re feeling crap about yourself. It doesn’t need to be like this love. The person you’re with should make you feel a million dollars, not lacking in any way.

Yeesh, I wouldn't put much more into this relationship tbh, assuming it's early ish days and not a decades long partnership or anything.

Ooops, you said, a year and a half. Nope! Fuck that. I'd move on!

Thank you for showing me my worth.
Thank you for showing me the type of person I am not looking for.
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