To be sad (but fascinated) about relationships

[Thatbliddywoman]

I see so much of it on here and in real life, about people's ex long term partners and husbands/wives and how awful they are following a break up or before/after one
Just.. Those two people were once in love. And then something just happens and now they're full of hatred for one another and behave in ways most wouldnt treat their worst enemy. It makes me feel so sad. It also honesty baffles me. Does anyone else feel this way? Or is it just a normal thing to happen?

It depends on the relationship.

My first one was very happy, we were getting married, wedding was booked etc, it broke down as we both experienced a significant change in our personal lives at the same time, due to the nature of the changes either one persons life was prioritised or the other, a compromise wasn’t possible due to the nature of the changes. Neither of us wanted the other person to give up their life, so we had a six month break to see how we felt. We’re still best friends, get on well and love each other, we’re happy as friends and it hasn’t stopped us going on to have relationships.

My second ex turned into an abusive twat out of the blue, after leaving him after being physically abused I discovered he’d been having an affair. I don’t hate him, I hate the choices he made, I would not like to see or speak to him again in any capacity.