Feeling quite down tonight, can't seem to unwind to sleep. My father was brought up by his grandmother as his mother & father didn't want the responsibility! However both went on to have other children with different people. Grandfather again didn't bother with the children he had, however grandmother did and raised them etc.
After being brought up by his grandmother,My Father joined army etc then met my mother, married and had me
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When I was around 10, my father got in touch with his mother who was then remarried, things were good, I was introduced to her, used to visit every weekend etc then suddenly all contact stopped again, I remember being young and dialling her home phone number and her hanging up on me straight away, so we stopped trying to contact her. Only family my father has now is me and my dd, my mother and father divorced when I was around 14. Recently my father was working in the area where his mother lives and decided to go and visit and inform her she has another grandchild (my dd, who is 6). His mother opened door and questioned who he was? Apparently didn't recognise him at all (which I don't believe) he informed her she has another grandchild who is 6 etc, my grandmother never asked any info about my dd and basically didn't want to know about us or my father, she kept him on doorstep and never said bye or anything. He told me about this the other day and I can't help but feel sick and so so sad for him, he says it doesn't bother him, she has never been in his life so he has nothing to lose. But I can't shake this feeling, he is my best friend and it hurts me so much that the only family he has is me and my dd, doesn't have any friends as he works all the time, he has a partner who is lovely, but I just can't help but feel sad at how lonely he must feel. Again he says he isn't and he's happy etc.
I often lie awake at nights and worry about him, I just feel so sad for him, but he doesn't seem sad about it all, but I worry that deep down he is and just doesn't want to tell me.
Does anyone have any advice please? Aibu in getting totally stressed and down at this situation? I have anxiety and depression but he's my dad & I love him & just want him to be happy.