Husbands anti-mask best friend

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DH has a best friend who works in a supermarket where their management have said they have to wear a mask. He has lied to them about having asthma, he laughs about it and told us he doesn't believe coronavirus exists and its some sort of government plot to do with control. Doesn't see the need to use hand gel. He hasn't worn a mask at all, in supermarkets he tells them the same story.
DH wants to go to the cinema with him, i am immunosuppressed due to meds I'm on (not had to shield, moderate risk) and we have 3 children under 5.
I am on edge, i asked DH if he'd wear a mask in the cinema due to his friend being risky with his behaviour, or would they consider an outdoor activity.
DH feels I'm being controlling... Thoughts? I haven't said he can't go! Obviously, as he's an adult. I'm just after some compromise...
Thanks!

Oh dear, I wouldn't be very thrilled if my DH wouldn't take care if I was immunosuppressed.

I don't think it is controlling to be worried, you are just worried.

The mask won’t protect your husband, but will protect the walker friend from possible infection by your husband. Therefore it would be pointless for him to wear it, in order to protect himself. Your husband also sounds like a wanker, considering the risk to you.

DH doesn't actually think you're being controlling, he just wants to do this despite the risk so uses a word to describe you he knows will upset you and you will struggle to ignore.

I also judge him for having a fool as a best mate.

So all in all he's am idiot and you are NOT being unreasonable. AT ALL. If he goes then let him know you will be sleeping in separate rooms for two weeks and expect him to wear a mask in your home.

Why would you wear a mask in the cinema? You're gonna end up taking it off to eat/drink anyway...

Show this study to your DH and get him to read it.
Face masks work
Read it yourself so you can talk to him after he's read it and tell him again why you're worried. You can't do anything about the thick-as-mince friend but you can try and make sure your DH understands your anxieties. Don't lose your cool with him, and if he still insists on going to the cinema with shit-for-brains make sure he washes as soon as he gets home.

@JKRowlingIsMyQueen you wear a mask in a cinema because it's the law.

I’d have an issue with my DH going to a cinema under any circumstances, if I were shielding and home with 3 under 5yo!

Not very caring, in many different ways.

Tell him that if he wants to set precedents for ‘going where I want, with whom I want, whenever I feel like it’ then you’ll be booking a remote cottage long weekend for yourself alone. Fair’s fair. Start looking for one online, start looking excited.

I'd be furious that he was willing to gamble with my life like that.

Personally, I'd also shop the friend to store management especially if he's in a customer facing role. I'm out of patience with these idiots who behave as if they've been asked to fill their socks with broken glass and shove razor blades down their knickers. It's not an infringement of human rights, it's a face covering. Worn to protect the vulnerable. Grow up.

@Feelingconfused2020 you can take it off to eat and drink, so the majority of people inside won’t be wearing a mask for the duration of the film.

So update, friend was happy to wear a mask to get into cinema. DH will not confirm if either of them will wear a mask for the duration of the film, which are what the rules state, I suspect friend plans on removing mask once sat down. Apparently i have been obstructive and DH is trying to compare me seeing my friend who wears a mask for work. My DH also pointed out that they were travelling together and asked why i wasn't concerned about that, when i pointed out i hadn't thought about it and suggested he wore a mask in the car, DH said i was trying to spoil his night.
I'm done, i guess i have to just cross my fingers for a fortnight.

Why not just ask your DH to wear a mask at home to protect you?

@Spookathon one of our children is autistic and doesn't talk to us/understand us at all if we wear a mask, it's totally awkward!

Why not just ask your DH to wear a mask at home to protect you?

What’s the point if they’re going to be sleeping in the same bed?

[quote Feelingconfused2020]@JKRowlingIsMyQueen you wear a mask in a cinema because it's the law.[/quote]
Lots of cinemas are saying you only have to wear them while moving around (so lobbies, toilet, foyer) not in the actual screening as you'll be sat in groups and all facing the screen.

@vanillandhoney maybe that is right then, the cinema just says they have to wear a mask, but maybe they go into more detail there. I will just hope for the best i think

What’s the point if they’re going to be sleeping in the same bed?

Sleep with the mask on!
If masks work - wear 'em 24/7 I say
Protect your loved ones!

I’d have an issue with my DH going to a cinema under any circumstances if I were shielding and home with 3 under 5yo!

This. I went to the supermarket today for the first time since the lockdown. I've also been shielding. It was a very short visit because almost 80% of people had no masks on. Clearly, a lot of people just don't give a damn about the rest of us.

Why not just ask your DH to wear a mask at home to protect you?
This - no more ridiculous than your OTT obsession with his friend wearing/not wearing a mask.

I don't see any issue in either parent having a few hours out to watch a film.

But my husband is immunocompromised and I just couldn't foresee any circumstances where I'd choose to socialise with somebody who showed no regard for that.