Hello. Can you tell me me if I am being unreasonable to expect more from my friend? We have been friends for 16 years and live an hour's drive from each other. In those 16 years she has visited me twice. I hardly ever see her and she regularly makes plans and then reneges on them. I went to her birthday party recently having not seen her in over a year. It's always me that has to travel to her. She has a twelve year old son but seems to be able to go out and leave him alone to go drinking with her local friends, but never has time for me. She refers to me as her best mate but I only hear from her by email when she is supposed to be working. She has never attended my birthday celebrations. I suspect she doesn't want to drive because she can't drink (or smoke weed). I've already been through the same with my father and sister so don't have much patience with it. I have spoken to her about it on many occasions and she promises to change but never does. I feel like dumping her as a mate, but she is a lovely person. She's just got rather lost. I often feel hurt when she let's me down but somehow feel mean if I don't keep in touch. Her sister tells me she gets very jealous of people so I wonder if.this is part of the problem. I feel I should give up on her but it feels so wrong.