Smoking neighbour what would you do?

[SmokeyChokey]

I get on with my neighbours to say hello to and they sometimes take in my post. So all ok. They’re nice people.

Except they smoke cannabis pretty much most evenings all evening. I’ve been able to smell it for a couple of years and put up with it as it hasn’t massively bothered me. I’ve thought now and again it gives me a stuffy nose. Worried more and more. I have mild asthma and I’m starting to wonder if it’s making things in my house permanently smell and potentially damage my health. My curtains in one room in particular now smell faintly like smoker’s curtains I think. Not bothered about it being weed just the fact that it’s any smoke and smell.

I don’t want to fall out with them or embarrass them, or have any awkwardness, but I kind of want to ask them to stop. AIBU or not and WWYD?

I wouldn’t ask them to stop. Anyone who thinks it’s appropriate to take drugs clearly has a compromised judgement and I wouldn’t trust them to be friendly about it.

I’d just contact the police each and every time I smelt it.

I assume you don't drink alcohol ever heartsonacake?

Our neighbours informed us reasonably and we started smoking further away from them.

They're happy, we're happy, no problems

Roy Castle indeed thank you everyone! Bit before my time I think.

@heartsonacake you'd be wasting your time there.

I assume you don't drink alcohol ever heartsonacake?

@Perfect28 Your assumption is correct. I think alcohol should be illegal too.

you'd be wasting your time there.

@DimidDavilby No I wouldn’t. The police in my area are very responsive to these issues.

Well don't you sound like fun! 😉

@Perfect28

Well don't you sound like fun! 😉

If you think alcohol is the only way to have fun then I pity you.

Yes Roy Castle died from lung cancer but he was playing a trumpet in smokey venues frequently not living in a separate house to smokers .

I’ve bought a good air purifier which works.

It might have been more effective if you'd given it to them

Vaping is much less intrusive than smoking too.

Also if they used an ioniser in the room they smoke in, it would drop the smoke particles out of the air so they don't spread.

That's not at all the implication, just that I take a Liberal stance. No one is forcing you to do anything and yet you (in your ideal world) would force people to your ideals. That's the bit that doesn't sound fun! Have a good day

@Perfect28

That's not at all the implication, just that I take a Liberal stance. No one is forcing you to do anything and yet you (in your ideal world) would force people to your ideals. That's the bit that doesn't sound fun! Have a good day

No. If alcohol was discovered today there’s absolutely no way it’d be legal.

Alcohol came about at a time when it wasn’t safe to drink anything but, because the water wasn’t safe, but now we know the dangers and how it turns everyone into fools. But hey, tax.

Nobody is better/more fun on alcohol, nobody’s situation is improved by it; they just think they are and they think it is.

Alcohol came about at a time when it wasn’t safe to drink anything but, because the water wasn’t safe, but now we know the dangers and how it turns everyone into fools. But hey, tax.

Er, alcohol goes way back to prehistory. We know our neolithic forbears were brewing it up (as well as baking) 8,000 years ago. Probably while they were cultivating cannabis (and while it's nice to imagine they only wanted the fibres and seeds, chemical analysis of pottery shards makes it 100% clear they were getting high).

We'll never know, for sure, but it's highly likely some early cereal crops were grown specifically to brew with.

And let's not even start on fermenting fruit juices.

Er, alcohol goes way back to prehistory. We know our neolithic forbears were brewing it up (as well as baking) 8,000 years ago.

TheUser420 I know. That’s my entire point; that there wasn’t safe drinking water back then.

You have 2 types of early societies

1 lot made booze to aid potability

1 lot made tea to aid potability

They supposedly ultimately came about for similar reasons

TheUser420 I know. That’s my entire point; that there wasn’t safe drinking water back then.

As far as I am aware we have no idea what the drinking water was like 8,000 years ago. I feel you may be confusing ancient prehistory and recent documented history - when we do know what was happening to water supplies (and it wasn't nice).

It may be an unpalatable truth, but our ancestors not only drank alcohol - they deliberately made it and drank it to get drunk. it's a dance as old as time. And it seems I was 1,000 years too recent ...

www.nationalgeographic.com/magazine/2017/02/alcohol-discovery-addiction-booze-human-culture/

Anyway, none of this really helps the OP who I hope finds a solution to their problem.

smack it out there hand

I’m not sure why people are focussing on the weed being illegal. It is not the fact that it is weed that is bothering OP, but the fact that there is smoke! And the issue is, you can’t really prevent people from smoking in their home, so calling the police or having someone over exclaim loudly that is smells won’t be much help.
OP, as you say they are nice I am sure you could talk to them and ask them to smoke outside if possible and/or away from specific areas where you smell the smoke the most.

I’m not sure why people are focussing on the weed being illegal. It is not the fact that it is weed that is bothering OP, but the fact that there is smoke!

Of course if tobacco (which is a zillion times more dangerous than cannabis) were illegal too, there might be a point.

All of which being said, I wouldn't be surprised to see tobacco outlawed in my lifetime.

@heartsonacake

I assume you don't drink alcohol ever heartsonacake?

@Perfect28 Your assumption is correct. I think alcohol should be illegal too.

you'd be wasting your time there.

@DimidDavilby No I wouldn’t. The police in my area are very responsive to these issues.

In what way are the police responsive?

All they can do is knock and ask them to stop smoking weed

And if they deny smoking it, there's literally nothing else the police can do.

The police won't be able to stop them, only warn them, otherwise our prisons would be full of weed-smokers. They wouldn't divulge who shopped your neighbours but they might work it out themselves (unless they're totally stoned of course). Personally, I'd have a friendly word with them and ask if they could smoke on the side furthest away from you as the smell is giving you respiratory problems. It would be a shame to fall out with otherwise good neighbours over this - if you use the phrase 'smell of weed' then they might want to be more discreet anyway!

@Perfect28

That's not at all the implication, just that I take a Liberal stance. No one is forcing you to do anything and yet you (in your ideal world) would force people to your ideals. That's the bit that doesn't sound fun! Have a good day

But the OPs neighbours are forcing her to breathe in the fumes and she has no choice over it other than to move. If they were drinking alcohol she wouldn't be able to smell it like she can the weed. If your pastime affects others negatively, and is still currently illegal she should be able to do something about it.

All they can do is knock and ask them to stop smoking weed [] And if they deny smoking it, there's literally nothing else the police can do

Not exactly.

They have the power to enter and perform a search (this might be one of the 1 times in 100 when they really do "smell cannabis" ...) and possession of cannabis in any form is contrary to the 1971 MDA. However the paperwork involved would far outweigh any benefit to anyone - especially if the neighbours have no previous and a cannabis warning is indicated.

It's possible the police might be a little more interested if there's any indications the neighbours are dealing. But even then, unless they are looking to be the next Escobar, it's very unlikely much could be done. Generally the police make it their business to know the low-level dealers precisely to avoid chasing their tails.

None of which makes it acceptable that the OP is suffering a nuisance.

You could always ask them if they would smoke further away from the house, you never know they might do it. If they are smoking a doobie then it's just weed smoke & not tobacco with all the chemicals in it (unless they're smoking shit dodgy weed)

Ramblingsontheego I feel you didn't follow the comments very well there. And besides as many have pointed out, the tobacco smoke is more harmful and that's legal too.