Co sleeping help

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Not an AIBU but posting for traffic, sorry.

Can anyone share any tips on how to get my 7 month old into his own cot please? Feel like I've been trying and failing since day 1 now!!

Don't get me wrong, I love the snuggles but I need my own bed back as non of us are getting a good night sleep anymore!!

Please help with any advice or tips x

Start with putting him in his cot in a Moses basket first for naps and then work up to nights.

What’s the main isssue ?

Thank you for replying.
We've tried that and he just cries and I don't agree with the cry it out method!
The main issue is it takes about 20 mins to get him to sleep and the second he's put anywhere other than our bed he wakes straight up.

He doesn't settle through the night even in our bed and is constantly fussing or rubbing his face so hard he's ripping his dummy out. We have always had trouble with his sleeping but it's getting to the point where he will only sleep on his side with me holding him.

Try a mattress on the ground so you can still cuddle him for naps but the key is to move away gradually over a period of time- dictated by him. If he shouts and wakes, you move back. If he doesn't, you roll away onto the floor. It's the Montessori floor bed technique I used with my first- my second had none of it. Everyone's different!

We had a bedside crib, once they were about 8months i i got it, so i would lay almost in it with dc and kinda retreat after a while, if dc woke id just quickly fling myself back in there
After couple of weeks i put the side up and then a few weeks after that moved crib away from the bed

I also didn't agree with the cry it out method but my baby is 10 months now and still not a good sleeper. I was starting to feel ill and delirious everyday so we have let him cry for around 10 to 20 minutes and then he settles for a good chunk of the night and comes back in with us if he wakes after 2am (or whenever we don't have any energy left in us!). I keep telling myself that it is going to benefit him learning to sleep unaided and it will also ensure that he has two happy parents with lots of energy for him to play and have fun each day. He's been in his own room since half 7 and had moved around loads but still fast asleep, thank god 😅🙏

We do check in on him and never let him get really upset so I guess it's the controlled crying approach rather than cry it out. I tried the patting and staying by him but he just wanted to be in my arms and wouldn't go to sleep.