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To ask how often you cry?

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FeelingWeepy · 18/08/2020 19:43

Just that really. Never used to be particularly over emotional, but seem to be weepy all the time at the moment. Not sure if it is since lockdown and not seeing friends or a bit of the baby blues (DC2 is only 4 months old so I'm probably a bit hormonal still) or sleeplessness getting the better of me or a combination of it all. Everything just feels a bit on top of me at the moment.

I so rarely cried during my 20s/early 30s. I cried 6 times today. I couldn't even say why. Stupid things. Mostly feeling like a shit mum, that sort of thing.

Do you cry more since having children? Do you cry more since lockdown/social distancing came in? How long does the baby blues last? Have you cried today? This week? How many times? What's a normal amount to cry? And if you started getting weepy when you had children, did you ever get back to being your old self emotionally?

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Notimeforaname · 18/08/2020 19:48

When you need to cry, cry. I don't think there is a 'normal' amount. Obviously it's not good to cry all the time but I feel its a healthy way to release stress.
I don't know about baby blues but I do know I was like you in that I rarely cried in my 20s. Id been called a tin man a few times 😂 the further into my 30s I go... I cry more. Maybe its just a hormonal shift? Try not to worry too much, holding back tears and emotions will ultimately cause more problems.
I guess I haven't been much help answering your questions but
I do hope you feel better soon op

timeforawine · 18/08/2020 19:49

Too bloody much! Before my daughter I rarely cried, since i find myself welling up most days over very little, and she's 4! Thought I'd be past this by now.
Her last day at nursery I cried on and off all day, she wasn't faded at all

Stressing · 18/08/2020 19:50

I hardly ever cry. Last time I properly cried was when I spoke to my dad on the phone the first time we knew he had incurable cancer. That was four years ago. Its a pain really because sometimes I feel like I could do with the release. I was only prone to crying when I was pregnant.

Notimeforaname · 18/08/2020 19:51

There are days when I cry for a large portion of the day. Then a week can go by where I don't cry. I just let myself cry when I feel it coming - if I'm in an appropriate place to fall apart for a while . X

SchrodingersImmigrant · 18/08/2020 19:54

Probably once a year? If more it's from anger and frustration. For example: manager was a bully and I ended up crying because I was so angry that I couldn't punch him in that smug fucking face of his.

Everyone is different. I have "awww" moments, but rarely tears.

Mummadeeze · 18/08/2020 19:55

I cry all the time when I am watching the Voice Kids. There are so many emotional happy moments! Other than that, only when watching TV programmes or films. I never really cry about things in my daily life. I used to but actually can’t see the point anymore. It didn’t make me feel better. Six times in a day is a bit worrying though, are you feeling a bit depressed? Maybe you should see the doctor or talk to someone about what is making you so emotional?

SilkCashmere · 18/08/2020 19:56

I cry when my hormones fluctuate each month.

rach2713 · 18/08/2020 20:00

When I had my son I never cried but when I had my daughter I would cry because someone moved the sugar jar or at X factor kids my husband would laugh at me lol but now I think I have cried once or twice this year..

WonderHike · 18/08/2020 20:09

I cry at the drop of a hat nowadays – anything vaguely sad or heartwarming on tv or the internet and I’m overcome. I haven’t had kids, it’s just happened as I’ve got older. I cry at least a few times a week. If I’m stressed or feeling sad about something (not infrequently), more often!

Sometimes you just need a good cry.

Do you feel like you’re feeling especially weepy OP? It can also be a sign of depression, so if you’re feeling really overwhelmed then definitely talk to your GP and get support. How long have you been feeling weepy and overwhelmed for?

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LittleRed53 · 18/08/2020 20:23

I'd say one day in two, on average, but if I'm having a bad day I can easily cry multiple times that day.

I've had depression since I was 15 though so I don't know how much my healthy self would cry...

MoggyMittens23 · 18/08/2020 20:43

I agree that when you need to cry, cry. Nothing worse than bottling it up. I cried earlier because the dog knocked over my tea. Not worth crying over obviously but it just got that but of stress out (there were other things, I’m not that soft!)

MoggyMittens23 · 18/08/2020 20:44

Oh and OP go easy on yourself. 4 month old plus lockdown cannot be easy at all

Poppadumpony · 18/08/2020 20:46

Well I don’t have kids but I probably cry once a month on average. I’m a right old cry baby!

Newfornow · 18/08/2020 20:46

Whenever I need to cry, I cry. Never been one to hold back because serves no purpose. Crying, however is a stress reliever.

CoalCraft · 18/08/2020 21:06

Shed a few tears? Pretty often really; I'm pretty easily moved by emotional stuff in media. Actual proper weeping/sobbing? Hardly ever really. Only times in recent memory was when my grandfather passed away in March, and when I thought I was having a miscarriage in April (I wasn't, still pregnant). Those were probably the only times in the last few years.

redcarbluecar · 18/08/2020 21:08

Not that often but sometimes wish I cried more - often find it quite cathartic.

thepassionchair · 18/08/2020 21:10

Not often but when I need to I do. I've had a cry tonight because my DD got her degree results today (finally!) and my Dad died before he knew she had graduated. She was the first person in the family to go to university apart from him and was the first grandchild, he was so proud of her.

PaperMonster · 18/08/2020 21:10

I can’t anymore. And sometimes I need to.

Stannisbaratheonsboxofmatches · 18/08/2020 21:11

Rarely now that I’m divorced! Before quite often...

Now it’s mainly only when there’s a sad film or music on.

Irked123 · 18/08/2020 21:12

About as often as a Dogs Trust or Battersea advert comes on TV

VettiyaIruken · 18/08/2020 21:13

Everyone is different. I don't think there's a 'normal'.

I'm not a cryer. I can't remember the last time. many years ago, must be. And when I have, it has been anger and frustration rather than sadness.

My dad died two years ago and I haven't cried once. I don't seem to do sad crying. Just impotent rage crying. It's probably a bit weird.

Cry when you want to or need to. Within reason. It's a healthy way to manage your emotions

Applesarenice · 18/08/2020 21:22

I did a lot more for the first 2 years - first year in particular. I’m back to rarely now

Myotherusernamewastakenagain · 18/08/2020 21:25

At funerals, so it depends how often people close to me die.

raspberryk · 18/08/2020 21:27

If you have cried 6 times today if it's not a complete one off I would say you probably should talk to a health care professional about post natal depression .
Baby blues tends to just be a day or so in the first couple of weeks.
Even at my lowest of low times, and believe me there's been some rock bottom places, I've never cried 6 times in one day.

Thisbastardcomputer · 18/08/2020 21:37

Never, I think there's something wrong with me. I can get a bit twitchy at long lost families. We went to Pearl Harbour that did make me cry, I couldn't stop.

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