How to confront my CF neighbour

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I have elderly neighbours and I think they are being CF for no reason. Previously they were leaving enough space for me to park my car outside my house - their car behind mine and my other neighbours 2nd car in front.

But recently they've started being really spiteful. Yesterday I nipped out with DC for 5 minutes round the corner, I'd come back and they'd purposely driven forward so I couldn't get back into my space. I suspected they'd done this before but yesterday it was really obvious that was the case.

It's starting to annoy me especially when getting DC out of the car and back into the house, unloading the shopping etc. There is always space behind their car too as their neighbours dont drive but it's like they want to make it impossible for me to park outside my own home.

AIBU? Or do I just ignore them?

Has something happened to make them annoyed with you?

Is it a public road or private parking spaces?

Sounds strange if they've suddenly started doing it. Could you go and have a friendly chat or are you not on those terms?

Is it a public road? If so there's not much you can do apart from hope they'll get bored eventually.
If it really annoys you, can you do the same to them?

I'd ask them what has changed?

Yeah need more info. When did it start and has anything else happened?

To all the posters thinking of pointing out that op doesn’t own the space in front of her house blah blah blah. Yes we know. That’s not the point of the thread.

Have you pissed them off for some reason? It all sounds very petty.

Park your car further back next time they are ou

My neighbours do this, it is very tough with kids
You really have my sympathy

Can't you just knock on next time and ask them to move so you can get in?

If they’re elderly perhaps they’re struggling with getting their car in and out of a small space and are moving forward to get a bit more room?
If it’s parking on a public road then it is annoying but I don’t see what you can do about it aside from souring relations. If they’re moving the car as their petty bastards they won’t change. If they’re struggling to get the car in and out of a normal sized space then be glad your car won’t be hit!

Have you had a disagreement?

You will have parked ‘too close’ to them once or reuse and they are revenge parking. You only have to read the threads on here to see where this will end. Amuse your self by stooping to their level or ignore it. I doubt ‘having a word’ will help.

My neighbours do stuff like that and I put it down to them being arse holes rather than anything personal!

Move house? Build a drive if possible? Go speak to your neighbours? Never move your car ever again?

What do you want us to say?

I would go and speak to them .
I might mention the idea that perhaps the driver is too old now to be able to park properly and to hint that maybe a retake of the driving test is necessary. In the spirit of helpfulness offer to contact the DVLA for them if their eyesight is troubling them.
I wouldnt expect them to change their mean and petty ways by doing this but simply to cause them some annoyance and worry as my revenge .

My elderly neighbour across the road does this with other cars, but it's to give herself more room to get out and do her 18-point turns because she's a useless fucking driver

They probably think that you parked too close and they don’t have enough room to comfortably get out. If you haven’t fallen out with them and there’s no other obvious explanation then I’d leave more space between your car and theirs in future and hopefully that should sort it. Or you could just ask them if you’re on friendly terms but they might not want to admit to finding manoeuvring hard, especially if it’s due to old age.

We haven't had any recent disagreements but there have been issues in the past. TV being on after a certain time, DC was teething and crying so they weren't happy about it etc. But really nothing major and we were amicable. Then this started a couple of weeks ago

A parking thread and no diagrams? Disappointing

Sorry @Cruddles

I think you need to get someone to watch and catch them in the act tbh.

Well they are definitely getting back at you for something! I would be inclined to have a genuinely friendly word, asking if youve offended them in any way. It might be just one of them & the other one is horrifioed & tells them not to be so silly!

Ask if youre leaving them enough room to get out & see if you can work out where you both can park so everyones happy.

I had this conversation with my neighbour & she was embarassed & changed it, but I have been friendly since & was friendly then, so we are fine. Except for the fucking motorbikes that park in between us now

Diagram needed! But apart from that - go and knock on their door every time they do it, saying 'oh I've got a car full of kids and food shopping can you move forwards' and ask them to move their car forward - they'll soon tire of it.

How far do they move? I'd leave my car as far in as I could then go round and completely innocently baffled say "have you moved your car forward while I was out? I was parked in that space and now I dont fit. Could you shuffle your car back so I can get the kids and shopping out safely please?" 😇 they're deliberately trying to make your life harder. If they needed to do it, they'd know it would affect you and decent people would apologise and explain.

@paulolina if you can’t say anything useful, STFU, dear.