Aibu to do nothing all day today

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Sibling squabbles have been ridiculous in our house for the last few weeks. It’s constant. Today I decided that I can’t keep going on being a mediator and trying to settle situations in between doing nice things like going out and playing with the kids.

So we have not gone to the park because they argued before we left, not gone to a local castle ruin because they argued and I’ve not done drawing with them because they argued about who had what pens. I’ve done nothing with them just sat reading my book.

I’m aware that it is unreasonable to an extent but I just got fed up of trying to sooth over their squabbles and spending all day doing nice things for/with them. So today I’m reading my book and they can entertain themselves with the garden/toys/craft.

Nope, not unreasonable at all. Enjoy your book

Love this. YANBU. 😁

YANBU

Mine are all teens now, and fairly civilised, but when they were younger the chef/taxi-driver/Secretary General of the United Nations would go on strike a couple of times a year. It did shock them at first, and they couldn't quite believe that I actually was not going to cook for them for a whole weekend, or ferry them around or whatever. Ultimately it worked very well, in terms of their behaviour (and their cookery skills!) improving. And them seeing me as an individual with an existence outside serving them.

I only got involved IF it got serious and someone was upset. Otherwise let them sort it out themselves. It’s part of the bonus of having sibling. Dispute Resolution, 😁

@Dilbertian

YANBU

Mine are all teens now, and fairly civilised, but when they were younger the chef/taxi-driver/Secretary General of the United Nations would go on strike a couple of times a year. It did shock them at first, and they couldn't quite believe that I actually was not going to cook for them for a whole weekend, or ferry them around or whatever. Ultimately it worked very well, in terms of their behaviour (and their cookery skills!) improving. And them seeing me as an individual with an existence outside serving them.

Yea I genuinely don’t think they recognise the amount I do. I sometimes think I do too much in terms of playing with them, asking them where they want to go etc and organising our week around them (Friday film night for them etc). I think maybe that gives raises expectations and places unrealistic pressure on me. Not their fault of course, I’ve given them those expectations and it’s back fired on me in that they are demanding and often rude.