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Just had a row

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MyName007 · 17/08/2020 22:57

NC as long time poster.
AIBU to ask DH to do housework even that he is working FT and I am not? We have 2 DC (6 and 10y). DH usually works M-F. I do literally everything around the house and do not ask him to help, as I have enough time. DH has not worked since 1st July, as he had routine operation, from which he recovered well and today we all went on a day out. Left home at 10am, came back at 5pm. As soon as we walked in, I started on dinner and asked him to fold 1 bedsheet and 2 pillowcases (they were drying inside the house), which he didn't do. We had dinner and, again, I asked him to unload the dishwasher, as I had to go and clean our outside bin- needed to be done tonight, as bins were emptied this morning and ours was full of maggots (sorry!). He started complaining that it is his 'rest days' and doesn't want to work! I lost it a bit and we had almighty row! He doesn't get why I am asking him to do these jobs, when he is on sick-leave until Wed!
Before anyone suggests to 'leave him' or 'kick him out', maybe, somebody knows where I can take my DH to rewire his brain? 🤨

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Randomname85 · 17/08/2020 23:02

Not unreasonable at all. Just because he works, the housework isn’t to ‘your job’ - you’re both contributing to dirty dishes and washing. I work part time from home and have a toddler who goes to nursery part time - my husband works full time and while I do do the majority of the housework he does do his bit (after a nudge or two) and yes he often has the same view in that he has been ‘working hard all day’ etc but he definitely doesn’t do nothing.

I always find this cartoon quite interesting

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/world/2017/may/26/gender-wars-household-chores-comic

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