To move my children's school to avoid neighbours children.

[Conair]

I have 3 children.. 5,7 and 9 and moved into my new home on January.

My neighbours are a nice professional couple
In their early 50s with 10 year old boy/ girl twins.

The twins have literally made my children's life hell...It started when I invited them around for tea... they were both incredibly rude and displayed very challenging behaviour.... they criticised my home, the food ( despite the boy eating 6 sausages) deliberately spat in my 5year
olds drink, swore constantly and smacked my 7 year old very hard over the head with a plastic sword... I vowed never to have them back and have discouraged my children to play with them.

Since then they have tried to hit my children every-time they see them, called them names and lied about them damaging their bikes and accusing them of stealing from them ( I have witnessed this myself)
I have tried to talk to the parents but they can't seem to see any fault in them and believe what they have said despite evidence to the contrary. I have never seen any discipline.

I am not saying my children are perfect at all but the behaviour I have seen from the twins ( the boy in particular) is extreme... I have a lot of experience with children through my own kids and my career so I have experienced challenging behaviours before but nothing like this.

Would I be unreasonable to consider moving my children to a school that the twins don't attend despite it being a lot further away or suck it up for a year ( they leave next September)?

without hesitation, change school

Covid may help, they should be in separate bubbles!
You could try it and see if okay with a view to changing if problems arise?

Will they be reunited in comp in 2 years anyhow or not?

For the sake of a year .. I’d tough it out IF this school is the best one
Jesus what little psychopaths they are
Presumably at school their victim pool
Is wider
Can you totally avoid them for the meantime

Yes they will be in secondary school together but I figured they will be diluted a bit in a bigger school ( the local primary is tiny).

Is the problem just in school, or at home as well?
I'd be loath to move my children to get away from little shits like them, I'd probably complain to parents / teacher every single time they did something shitty though.

They're not in the same year group or class are they?

Given the covid way of schooling I would think its going to be less of an issue.

Did they have issues in school Jan to March?

If they are not in the same class then surely that won’t be mixing especially with bubbles etc. It would be a shame to change schools if your children are happy just because of 2 children who hopefully won’t be around your kids much from September.

I dont know what your school is like for handling situations outside of school, but ours have been fantastic, it may be worth a chat with the school.

I would send them to the local school but make the school aware of the bullying that’s taking place.

We had the odd issue but nothing too much out of the ordinary...it's since they came for tea the issues really started.. I suppose with the bubble system they won't mix much if at all but they did
Split group classes before lockdown so my 9 year old may be in same bubble which is a bit of a concern.

I'd suck it up for a year - the Covid rules mean they'll be allowed to mix much less this school year anyway as presumably they're in a different class?

And if they are awful in school the teachers will have to deal with it anyway so the parents are less able to just blithely ignore their little darlings' behaviour!

@Conair would it be possible to speak to the school and ask for your 9 year old to be kept away from them both? Could also open the door to explaining the situation to the school so they are aware too

As none of the children are the same age, surely they won't be in the same class?

I wouldn't move my children to a school further away because of these children's behaviour.

If you're bothered, speak to the school in confidence and ask them to ensure the twins are kept away from your children.

Why are people saying they aren’t in the same year? The age cut off is Aug 31st. Some children are yet to have their birthday.

I would contact the school now by email and inform them there is a problem with these children and your dcs. Ask for them to be separated as much as possible.

Id be thinking about moving house, never mind school!

Definitely speak to the school and explain there is a bullying situation outside of school and it will need monitoring. This also gives them a chance to pre-empt any issues with different classes/bubbles etc. I wouldn't change their schools but would be very, very vigilant...

Personally I would be giving the little shits a piece of my mind myself. 10 years old?! I'm also pretty sure you can report the violence to the police at 10. They are going to get a shock when they go to secondary school and dont rule the roost anymore.

Talk to school and see if they can keep them appart. Otherwise, I would change school.

I would inform the school so they are aware of the issues at home. As they will be attending the same secondary school I would ensure that this is tackled now with their current school in the hope that this will nip it all in the bud.

Also maybe install a Ring doorbell or camera that will catch any behaviour on your property.

Some good practical advice above. I would also, if you haven’t already, take this as an opportunity to in an age appropriate way work with your dc to explain to them that none of this is their fault, they have done nothing to warrant being on the receiving end of “bullying” and just work on your dc’s resilience to it (easier said than done) it’s just catching the effect this can have on your dc sooner rather than later will do your family a long lasting favour.

its Extreme of you haven’t discussed this with the teacher.

I assume given their behaviour there are lots of issues at school with the children. The teachers will already be aware and should be keeping a close eye

Also they might be little angels at school just monsters at home!

Could be a lock down issues, once they get back to a routine things might calm down?

Better the devil you know. I’d keep them there with a word to the school before term starts. (Unless the other school can guarantee they will have no challenging pupils for the duration your children attend!)

I would send my kids to the best school and if that means the same school as your neighbours kids then I would speak to their teachers and tell them your concerns.
As far as next door goes - be neighbourly but keep your distance.

They are unlikely to run across your children much over the next few months due to bubbles. If you are otherwise happy with the school I wouldn’t move them.