I’m beginning to really hate being called “nice” and “lovely”. I used to think it was a compliment but now it just grates on me. My little one is in nursery and out of the blue the new worker said “oh manager was saying Alison is such a lovely and nice person and you are so lovely”. The thing is I feel over the years I’ve been conditioned to always be sweet, kind and caring - all these qualities in moderation are brilliant but I want to start being a little less nice. I want to be known as someone who will speak her mind and get things off her chest. Spoke to my mum today about hating the word “nice” always being used to describe me and her response is it’s better than being called a “bith”, but to be honest I want* to be more bitchy rather than nice but I just don’t know how!
I don’t know where to start. Maybe when schools go back I will stop being so smiley and friendly like I did before lockdown. I was always the one smiling and saying hello and making polite conversation. I need to start small but just don’t know how.
I know it might sound weird to some of you but I often feel being so nice people think you’re a bit dumb around here as no one else is that smiley or friendly. Also being “nice” I feel gives people the green light to be CF as they know I’ll be too polite to say anything.