Have been on the pill for at least 16 years now, and particularly over the last 8 years my libido has completely dwindled to dust.
I no longer feel desire, or lust, or even desirable, come to think of it. I have regular sex with DH 2-3 times a week but only because in a very abstract, remote sense I know that I want to try and maintain our sex life. There is no desire there and I hate the fact that I'm simply going through the motions or that my DH will sense that I'm an unenthusiastic partner. I want to want to have sex, if that makes sense, it just isn't backed up by the physical response.
Once I've got there then I generally feel more in the mood, but literally right up to the last second I could take it or leave it.
I miss feeling desire and passion. I miss feeling an innate, primal urge to share myself with another human being. I can't bear to think of it just going through the motions for the rest of my life.
I love my DH and I find him attractive. The only thing I can think is that I've often heard that the pill affects libido. Has anyone on here switched to a different contraceptive method and found their sex drive improves?
I need to do something. I'm fed up of feeling so...tepid.