AIBU? I want to leave my husband, or should I ride out this tough period and rebuild things?
The story is - I think I don’t love my husband anymore. He’s a selfish prick, is unsupportive and does very little for us as a family other than earn money (which I also do btw, I WFH earn more than him and do 90% of the childcare and household management too, what a doormat!)
I’m struggling with depression and he just doesn’t give a shit, only complains that I’m miserable and not paying him enough attention. Last night he threw a strop because after a day of the kids climbing all over me and whining (he was at work 8-7), I just wanted to lie in bed and read my book and listen to my music in peace once the kids were asleep. Apparently I was being miserable and it wasn’t fair that I didn’t want to spend time with him. He couldn’t see (I told him but he doesn’t listen), that I was at the end of my tether and has been crying all day and just wanted space. Now he’s refusing to talk to me because I need to stop being a misery.
I can’t work out if its the pandemic that’s causing me to feel like this or if our relationship really is over.
I desperately want some time to myself but I’ve had the kids constantly in my face since March. He was furloughed and getting on my tits from March to July and I thought things would improve when I didn’t have him in the house 24:7 but no... now he’s back at work I don't like him because he uses his work as an excuse to do nothing for me and the kids. (3 and 8) He just wants to talk about himself and his work.
So. Please guide me. AIBU to consider ending this marriage?
YABU - I should wait until the kids are back at school and life returns to normal and things are less pressured before making a life changing decision like ending a marriage
YNBU - the marriage is over, he’s Selfish and will never put you first or Support you so why stick around making yourself miserable?