Hi will be long bear with me.
Dh went out yesterday with around 10 people to celebrate the birth of one of his friends children. They got a train and went to a restaurant for food and drinks. Afterwards 4 of them including dh decided to go back to friends house to watch the boxing. They bought some alcohol and got on the train back. They made it to the next station and police got onto the train. They confiscated their alcohol. (which was unopened bottles of beer still in packaging in a plastic bag) my dh asked why they were doing this as it wasnt being consumed. Police said you couldn't have it on train at all and this went back and forth and my husband responded finally with you are stealing our fucking property. Queue being handcuffed and removed from train and driven to station and handed a public disorder notice. His options were accept it or spend a night in the cells.
Now my dh isn't an angel but never in our 13 years together has he ever been in trouble with the law. He sometimes gets a "I'm right attitude" when he has had a few but never to this extent.
Of course I was cross and tried to rationalise with him over the phone but this ended up with him hanging up on me. He was stuck an hour away so I rang his dad and asked if he could organise his taxi driver friend to collect him which he did. While waiting for taxi he rang and applogised for hanging up and I said let's leave discussing until tomorrow when you aren't tipsy. I said I'll be waiting with money for taxi when he gets home. He then says I'm not coming home straight away I'm still going back to friends house. Now I'll be honest in that I got cross at this. I told him he was ridiculous not coming straight home after this situation and wanting to go and drink more. He said what difference does it make? I said that this is not a normal situation and he needs to come home and go to bed. He said he would think about it and then he hung up. He came in at 1.45am after deciding to go to friends.
So as not to drip feed I do not like these group of 'friends' at all so I am accepting that my views are prejudice anyway but I'll be honest I'm seething about the whole situation this morning. I couldn't sleep, anxiety was up and now I'm stewing this morning while he sleeps it off.
I need to know aibu in feeling this way. How would you react? My better judgement is telling me to try and forget it all, not start anything as we are having a few marital issues as it is and I don't want to make that worse.