Freaking out over c-section tomo

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Posting here for traffic mainly as I hear it's very busy. I'm a new member also

So I just need somewhere to let my thoughts out. I have a planned c section tomo and I'm freaking out Altho not dare why entirely as I've had one before. Well with my first son I had an emergency section and this is my second child and I also chose a c section as never wanted a vagina birth

But then covid happened and I'm not allowed to have my hubby on the Ward with me. He can attend the birth and recovery but after I go to the ward he's only slowed at visiting hours. My toddler son isn't allowed at all so I will miss him terribly even tho I know he's in safe hands with hubby and families helping out

With my first my hubby was able to help out lots with nappy changes and feeding etc as he stayed overnight with me the entire time but obviously not allowed now. That was such a great help as it's tricky getting round after a big operation so was great to have help. I guess I'm just worried in case I'm ringing my bell for a nurse and they are too busy to come and my baby is crying but I can't get out of bed!! I dunno I just feel overwhelmed

This baby was planned and I'm super excited to meet him but now it feels so real I'm a bag of nerves

Oh ok thank u for all your replies and yes I do feel a lot better now so thanks

It's prob more Cos I've never left my toddler overnight before so I was crying earlier as I will miss him tons

My hubby has 2 weeks off work so will help out so that I don't overdo things

My last baby in 2018 hubby was allowed to stay the 4 nights they kept me in so I think back before covid it prob was normal for partners to be allowed to stay. He did only have a chair to sleep on but he didn't mind. Think it was a recliner chair tho altho can't remember exactly

My mum is soooo old fashioned and keeps telling me how in her day (she's 73) the hospitals always kept u in for ages and took great care of u etc and no matter how many times I tell her it's all changed now she still hopes they keep me in longer lol

It’s normal to be anxious, I have had 2 planned sections. On the way to hospital for the first I panicked, this said I knew it was better to have a planned one than an emergency one which after a complicated birth with my first would have properly been where the 2nd birth ended up. Have also heard from people that have had emergency and planned ones that they are very different. For my second c-sec I only had a days notice as one of the babies had slowed in growth, I thought I had weeks to mentally prepare, but all was good. You honestly will find it a calm experience than an emergency one. good luck.

I had a planned section and it was very positive experience. DS was prem so had to stay in for ten days in a transition unit. It was like having my own private midwife as it wasn’t busy. They pretty much did everything. By the time I was discharged I was well on the way to recovery from surgery, bf was established and routine established. I felt confident and relaxed. I think grandmothers are right in the luxury of the past practice of keeping mums in for 10 days for rest.
I was fit, well and ready to go although any more than 10days and I would have been seriously climbing the walls.
I probably would have felt differently if I’d had a toddler at home though.
Do remember that you will have had major surgery and you need rest. Absolutely no lifting and you need to organise some sort of aid to help you get out of bed.

You will be fine! I’ve had 2. Emergency on the first like you, then planned for the second.
After birth and recovery DH had to go anyway to collect DD1. So I didn’t see him again until the visiting hours the next day. Nurses will look after you! I don’t recall needing to ring the bell at all. I was out after 48 hours.
Congratulations for tomorrow :-)

Your covid restrictions sound like my hospital's normal policy! Dads are allowed in recovery and then only during visiting hours (2hrs in the morning, 2hrs in the evening). It meant after my 10pm emcs that DH was sent home and not allowed back until 11am the next day. Actually, I preferred it that way. While I missed DH, I don't think a ward of postnatal women was the place for other people's partners 24/7. Private rooms are obviously different.

Good luck. I suspect you'll be fine. I had my catheter out within 3hrs both times and was up and about and pain free, discharged the next day. I didn't need to ring my buzzer at all. Ring if you need to, ask for help and enjoy your brand new baby.