Is dd GM wrong in her thinking

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Survivethestorm · 16/08/2020 00:48

Had a few threads so leaving this link here to get a bit of back story www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3993060-Was-Aibu-dd-and-her-dad?watched=1&msgid=99074226#99074226

DD is young, non verbal having contact with her abusive father (to both her and I ), it is court order. On 3 occasions out of 6 dd has returned with grab mark bruises on her arms, I have got ss involved. but her GM (ex's mum) said how can it be abuse if it's only happened three tines.. now I've gone back and told her that just because it doesn't always happen it doesn't mean it isn't abuse. A lot can depend on how dd behaves, exp mood in general etc. Does anyone else this that my dd GM in wrong in her thinking?

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justilou1 · 16/08/2020 02:02

Once is enough. You know that.

CSIblonde · 16/08/2020 02:48

So by that definition one rape isn't rape because it only happened once. Right. Minimising what's happened is such a shitty & common tactic in those who are abusive or defending abuse. It's like that Swedish murderer who shot 39 students at a holiday camp then said more people die in wars.

lakesidesummer · 16/08/2020 03:09

Of course this is nonsense.
Child abuse is child abuse regardless of the number of times it happens.
Social services and the police do not operate on this basis.

Jacky209990 · 16/08/2020 03:56

I would make sure to mention this response to ss. If you have it in writing keep it. Contact could become supervised by a member of his family, I would not want someone with this attitude supervising.

Sailingblue · 16/08/2020 07:09

Of course this is nonsense. It makes me so sad that your child has to maintain content with this monster of a man quite frankly. I just don’t understand why someone who has been abuse still gets contact. His mother is also deluded which won’t be helping.

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Survivethestorm · 16/08/2020 09:38

It saddens and angers me that she still has to be in contact with exp. It's frustrating that anything I do to try and protect dd can be seen as obstructing contact, even having ss involved, yet his behaviour they'll give him the benefit of any doubt in order to maintain contact.

Ill ensure ss are aware of the comments, makes me realise why exp is as abusive as he is though.

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