Dont know whether to take the job or not

[mrshangry]

I had a interview last week for a trainee dental nurse job it's in the new town we're moving too. I really wanted the job until I found out the hours.

It's 44.5 hours a week 9-6 and Saturday 8-1 so I wouldn't get home until 7 plus a lot of training and course work on top off it.

DS goes to school next year and DD will be in nursery also next year so the perfect time for me to start would be next year. But OH is against me putting off another year.

I feel like it's my last year with the kids and I would prefer a little part time job so I can take DS to nursery and make dinner spend time with them ect.

everyone keeps telling me to go for it but I just don't feel ready to yet.

AIBU to put it off for a year? They are always taking on so she said I could apply again next year.

It shouldn't be every Saturday, surely? You're entitled to a 48 hour rest every fortnight.

It shouldn't be every Saturday, surely? You're entitled to a 48 hour rest every fortnight.

Actually, I've just googled it and I think I'm wrong! Shows what I know.

I'm a big believer in work-life balance so would turn it down for that reason - but then again, if it gets you the experience you need, is it worth sticking it out for a bit and then finding something with less hours later on?

Yes, if you are working 5 1/2 days every week, you'll be breaching WTR.

I know it’s a stepping stone and could be a great opportunity but personally I wouldn’t take it unless I was utterly desperate, even if the money were fantastic (and I’m guessing it’s not actually well paid if it’s trainee job).

That’s a hell of a lot of amount hours per week especially when you take into account the extra study required. Realistically that will probably fall to Sunday because you’ll be knackered after a full day at work during the week so you’re never going to get a day off, the work life balance will be crap and there won’t be any time for family or for you.

No thanks.

I've worked very similar hours twice and it's not good. I did Monday-Friday 8:00-6:00 and Saturday 8:00-12:30. Self employed by the time you get home, eat, shower, change Saturday has basically gone. The weekday evenings are nearly over too after you've driven home, eaten etc

The second job was Monday-Friday 8:00-6:00 and one in the Saturday 8:00-1:00. I wouldn't recommend it. I didn't do it long. Very hard seeing colleagues in other depts come in at 9:00 and go at 5:00

Meant to say one in three Saturdays

If you feel nowthat you want this time with the kids then chances are you’ll regret it if you take it, end up dropping out and thus spoil the chance you would have had to apply next year.

Working every Sat morning sucks.

That's an awful
Lot of childcare you'd have to find. Is it financially viable this year, or will it end up costing you money?

DH used to work those hours in a well paid toll and DS2 found it tough not having DH home for dinner or to be there for his Saturday morning football.

Those are crap houses to work with small children. I wouldn’t take it.

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I wouldn't take it - not with young children and I am generally thinking it is important to not being financially dependent on DH and to have some sort of employment. But 5.5 days every bloody week? Nah. And as others have said, it is in breach of WTR. Who know what other regs the flaunt once you start there.

Hold off a year, your heart won’t be in it and you’ll feel resentful making it harder to get back into it in a year. Your Dh shouldn’t be pressuring you, it’s your choice and your reasons are very valid. Find something part time for now.

The hours are off putting, but it's not going to be easy to find the 'little part time job' that you would really like in the current climate.

and you need to consider yourself as well. Would you be able to cope with 5 long days and only having sunday off? Who would to the cooking, cleaning, school & nursery runs? What happens if the DC are unwell (happens often at the start of nursery). Throw in the odd sniffle and following Covid quarantine... I assume if DH is so eager for you to return you had this conversation and he would do more than his fair share!?!

Would they consider doing the job as a job share?

Why is your husband keen for you to take the job
Is he feeling under pressure
Being a SAHP really only works if both parties agree it is best
Personally I wouldn't want to be financially dependent on anyone else

Not sure if you are married
If not I would definitely take the job

Is that every Saturday? If so your husband does realise that childcare falls to him alone every Saturday I take it?? He wouldn’t be able to plan anything with his mates etc!
What are your husbands work hours? Does he finish before you so will be picking up the kids from childcare? Sounds like he will be running around a lot

No way would I take the job, would cost you a lot in childcare and is a lot of hours to go straight into without the other stuff like studying at home! You would have no life!

Can your DH do the school runs, make dinner etc, will make things a lot more manageable.

He needs to think about whether he'd prefer you working full time and him doing half of house and child stuff, or you working part time and doing most of what's needed at home. Also what you want, of course.