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Confused and drawn in

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Chairlove · 15/08/2020 15:33

Posted on here last week about my fwb. He is an ex and we hook up. We ended up meeting up on Wednesday. Dinner, drinks (His treat)back to mine for a movie and he stayed over.

Lying in bed cuddling he was asking why I wanted to see him. I made a joke and said satisfaction guaranteed, then said it’s nice to hang out. I asked him and he joked food and drinks with someone who he enjoyed their company.

He then started to say his friends wife wanted to match him up with her best friend, but he wasn’t sure, as she was just separated with kids and it would be awkward, if they didn’t click as she was always round his friends house. Said he found her attractive, but not sure their life values match. He also said he didn’t
Want to date someone with kids. Said before he turned off the lights to sleep, our values match and you don’t have kids. Asked what that meant, but he was asleep

Next morning as he left, I said text me when your free and we can meet up. Got a big hug and no response. He left, but came back again and bear hugged me. Said see you soon.

So left wondering. Is he dropping hints that we should try again? He is very guarded with his feelings and can’t express them. This is the reason we broke up. Or telling me he is seeing someone else?

Ps. The I will look around for you joke was him saying he was interested. I asked him.

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omg35 · 15/08/2020 15:35

Could be or could be that your values are same in that you're both happy to hook up with no commitment. I'd say latter is true when paired with the kids comment

Chairlove · 15/08/2020 15:35

Meant to add. I am confused. I like him, enjoy spending time with him. But not sure I want a relationship. This is the reason I can’t let go.

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AryaStarkWolf · 15/08/2020 15:37

Sounds like he's dropping hints

Oliversmumsarmy · 15/08/2020 15:53

Sounds like he is dropping hints but he is still being guarded and as this was the reason you broke up before then that issue doesn’t appear to have been resolved

Chairlove · 15/08/2020 16:15

I know. He never let me in before. He does to an extent now. I sent him a text today asking what he is up to and can we talk. Left on read. He has been active. We shall see.

Think it’s got too complicated and we need to talk about it. We skirted about things before.

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BlackLetterDay · 15/08/2020 16:25

He's fucking you around, if he wanted to be with you he would, he's stringing you along.

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