To stop my son playing violently

[AtLastEarwax]

My son has a friend who I would like to stop him playing with - please read my reason

The friends dad is in military and likes to watch war clips with his son on YouTube. He's had a BB gun for his 4th birthday and now he doesn't go anywhere without a Swiss pen knife in his pocket

Am I to mind my own business and let the children play - his parents have made the choice to buy him stuff and that's that or do I do something about it??

I would not be happy with either the pen knife or the BB gun. And I would not be happy with YouTube war clips.
If you feel that you need to maintain the friendship between the 2 little boys then have him to play at your house.
I would also speak to the parents and tell them how you feel.

stop letting your kid play with him. A bbgun?? War clips? A swiss pocketknife? The kids dad might have been a bit messed up by being military and forgetting his kid is 4. Not 14. Disgusting behaviour and negligent parent

What if this kids pulls his knife to 'play flight' with your kid. Or decides to shoot him in the eyeball. Or corrupts your kids head by showing him inappropriate violence on youtube at his house.

Thanks. No thanks.
Better meet some new playmates op.

Ditch him, the friendship will go nowhere good.

I’m not sure if the kid is still 4 but if you are seriously telling me that a 4 yr old is walking around with a knife in his pocket then I think that’s worth a call to social services.

Oh dear, YANBU. I had to stop DH rough housing with DS (3) because he was starting to think hitting etc was totally funny and ok. And that was only a bit of very gentle play fighting!

Please please report. This is a real safeguarding concern. If the child was in school and a teacher discovered this, it would be treated extremely seriously and reported in a heartbeat. The child and quite possibly dad, maybe even mum, need help.

If we found out that one of our preschoolers at work had been given those types of things to play with, we'd be reporting to the Local Safeguarding Team. This is a very serious safeguarding issue and potentially the tip of the iceberg for this poor child. Please, please report to social services or the child's nursery/school.

He's just started reception at the same school as my ds. I might get hubby to ring school and just say anonymously??

We haven't met up with them, I chose to be 'busy' and if I keep doing that hopefully she'll stop

Something sat uneasy with the BB gun but when the knife came into it it felt more serious. He's never used the BB gun with ds and ds hasn't used it, he just saw he had it as a present for his bd.

If you're in the UK or anywhere else you should report them to the school. If the child carries a knife to school (you say he takes it everywhere) then they will want to put a stop to it immediately.