Removing Ex a while after break up?

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For a bit of backstory, my ex dumped me by text 14 months ago. Said he missed being single and thought he could get used to spending all his time with someone again but he hadn’t and he didn’t see it changing anytime soon. I strongly suspect this wasn’t solely the reason because I’d put around 2 stone on due to long term steroid use for a chronic condition and was having a particularly bad eczema outbreak so definitely wasn’t looking my best . We haven’t spoken since but we remained “friends” on social media. Yesterday a photo of him and who I presume is his new girlfriend on holiday appeared on my timeline. To be honest it was bit of a gut punch because I’m clearly not over him so I removed him off Facebook, I was already struggling with general updates and I almost certainly couldn’t have coped with new relationship updates etc...

I happened to mention to my friends that I’d removed him and they said I’d been unreasonable in removing him because it’d been so long since the break up and if someone did that to them they’d be really offended and I should be long over it by now.

I’m not bitter about it, I truly hope he’s happy in his new relationship but the end of our relationship broke my heart and my confidence is at zero. Selfishly, It was more for my benefit removing him as opposed to hard feelings because I just want to stop feeling so rubbish in myself about it but now I’m worried I’ve inadvertently offended him or something or hurt his feelings

This was my first breakup so god knows what the etiquette is for these kinds of situations but needless to say I now feel even more terrible than I did before removing him because now I’m worried I’ve been unreasonable about the whole thing.

Fuck etiquette. If you don't want someone on your FB friends you take them off. It's 100% your choice.

I'd dump those "friends" too!

YANBU if it helps you, for whatever reason, to not see his news of any sort then absolutely remove him. We can think things through but we can't always help how we feel. Your friends are dicks

He probably won't even notice and if he does, what does it matter.

If he's hurt that's his problem.

Ffs, your social media is nobody's business but your own! I have a cull every now and again, I've added exes, deleted them, same with friends who I've not physically seen or spoken to for years, even some distant relatives.

You're under no obligation to have anyone on SM, fuck what your friends think!

Ignore your friends, if that's what you can call them. Protecting your mental health obviously comes before maintaining a superficial connection on social media. Honestly, your only mistake was not removing him immediately.

What does it matter if he's offended? And if a grown man is offended by social media, you're well rid. You don't need to know what's happening in his life. You're not his friend or his anything. That ship has sailed and he's blown it.

No you can delete people when you want to delete them. You have to protect your own
Mental health

Jesus! It's your Facebook. Do what you want. He won't notice anyway - so it won't matter one way or another

1. Don’t beat yourself up for your appearance or use it as a way to measure that you are worthy of someone staying with you, true love wouldn’t leave you for those reasons.

1. You should have deleted him ages ago but you are really smart to have done it now to save your mental health, Welldone!

1. Your friends are immature, deleting people of facebook is a healthy thing to do, your Facebook should only be full of people you would call or be happy to go out for a drink with. So many people have acquaintances or People from their past on Facebook just to stalk or be nosey about, no need!!

1. Not to be harsh but he probably won’t give a shit, men don’t think like women.

Wow

First of all you can unfriend anyone you want to on social media and not wanting to see an ex share details of his life with a new woman is a perfectly good reason. If he is offended so what - he dumped you.

'Friends' and I use the term loosely are being ridiculous - dump the friends for being judgemental and stupid.

Look after yourself, he wasn't the one for you.

Best wishes

I happened to mention to my friends that I’d removed him and they said I’d been unreasonable in removing him because it’d been so long since the break up and if someone did that to them they’d be really offended and I should be long over it by now.

Defriend them and make it a hat trick.

Your friends are being unreasonable about this. You aren't. Dumping someone by text isn't the best way to do it, so if he is by some strange chance offended, he can just suck it up.

Christ! Dump the friends!

Why would anyone want someone they like to have a ringside view of their ex happily moving on?

As for all the other stuff, he sounds like a shallow twat; there is no etiquette, you just do what you have to do to get through it; your freinds have swallowed the WOMAN, BE NICE pill and are expecting you to act it out for them! Sod them too!

Is it your sm or your mates sm?
If yours you get to decide who your mates with.
Not only has be moved on, but why should you give a shit about his feelz?

your friends are weird, you can delete who you like when you you like from your social media.
I'd also consider deleting the friends.

You did the right thing, you don't need to see it.

It's your Facebook and you'll remove whoever you feel like removing, thanks!