What’s the right thing to do....

[Whattodoright10]

I’ve named changed for this...

I need advice on what’s the right thing to do ....my Nan was adopted through a lot of research I’ve managed to track down a family tree/history fairly complete.

Except I know she had an older birth sister (10 years older) through further digging I’ve found out sadly she and her husband passed away some years ago. Leaving 2 adult children - I’ve found the daughter who would be my Nans birth niece. I’ve only found them on twitter so only way I think to message them is follow them and then send a message.

But is it worth it? Is it the right thing to do? I would love for my Nan to give her a picture of her birth mother and if possible any idea of why she was adopted. My Nans not bothered she happy with her family and is very happy with life.

Is it best to just leave the past in the past?

I think I'd leave it to be honest

If your nan isn't bothered I would leave it

It's her business, not yours

I’d leave it. They may not even know about your nan. If she’s not bothered you need to respect her wishes

Leave it.

Your nan is happy, so just leave it.

You may have the best of intentions, but you could bring a world of pain upon everyone if you start meddling.

I'd leave it. Your Nan isn't bothered and it may stir up some awful memories and emotions for all parties.

Thankyou - that’s what I thought I’ve been sat on it for months! I can kind of work out why (during the war -London)

Somethings best to leave! :)

By chance the family have reached out to me. I put a family tree on a site with a few names and it was picked up by the son and he has reached out to me.
He never knew of my Nans birth but I have photo and that’s all we ever wanted and we know a bit more history about that side of the family.