To be annoyed

[JuneSpoon]

This is going to be irritatingly vague so IBU for that alone!

Basically, there's something I'd like to do (hobby) that due to lockdown, lack of childcare, DP's working hours I just cannot do.

Haha I know everyone is thinking "FFS it's cycling isn't it, just bloody say cycling"

I have tried many things, rejigging this, asking DP for that. DP is not in the least obstructive but I can't justify him losing working hours earning money so I can do this hobby.

And that's fine, it's slightly disappointing but the stress of trying to make it work was actually affecting my mental health and as a result my physical health (to a certain point. I know that's slightly melodramatic).

Anyway, here's the AIBU.

I was talking to friends and they asked about the hobby. I said it was on the back burner for now. They suggested all the things I have tried (it's been 5 bloody months, I have tried a lot of possible solutions but the truth is, something has to give and it can't be paid work, or DC so it has to be this thing I would like to do.) And I told them all the reasons that solution didn't work.

Then they kind of sneered laughed to each other and said I obviously am not that interested in cycling .

I know this is ridiculous but AIBU to be annoyed and hurt at their sneering or do I need to grow up ?

If it is actually cycling, get over it. Buy a stationary thing (cross trainer) and cycle in the garden. They are infantile and honestly weren’t being good friends. If it’s not cycling tell us what it actually is.

If it is cycling, why can’t you get up early and do it while DP is home Asleep and kids asleep. Or in the evening when DP comes home.

Early Saturday or Sunday morning?

These are times DP is likely to be home from work and not interfere with going out it going things as a family in the day.

Failing that, get a good stationary bike and ride that in the day while you’re home with the DC. When you can get someone to watch the kids (covid permitting) Or they’re back in school/nursery then plan cycling around that.

Truly, if you REALLY want to do it, get up early. It’s light out very early now. Or go once kids are close to bed time and DP can do that

Your friends are dicks.