To feel robbed of my last year with dd4 before school?

[Mummypig2020]

I have 3 Dc. The first two are 12 and 11 and when they were little I was extremely unwell with PND and struggling with the death of my mum so I struggled to bond the first few years. I was 19 and in an abusive relationship.

Fast forward, I’m now married and have a just turned 4 year old. Her birth, babyhood and upto now has been amazing and completely different. I breast fed, went to all the baby groups and really really loved the time. I feel so gutted I can’t do it again and I feel sad that I didn’t get to have these feelings with all 3. I feel abit robbed in that sense.

Anyway, I wanted to spend as much time doing things just the two of us before she started school (while the others were at school). But obviously Covid happened and that’s not been possible.

She starts school in 3 weeks and I’m not ready. I feel so emotional and sad that this lovely chapter is coming to an end. I feel robbed of the last few weeks/months of trying to feel ready to let go. It sounds ridiculous I know. I would do it all again if I could.

Uhhh I’m sorry for being pathetic.

Yabu.

YABU you’ve only missed a few months of baby groups etc, you have probably spent more time together than you otherwise would have. We have all made sacrifices missing a few baby groups in the grand scheme of things is trivial.

YABU you’ve only missed a few months of baby groups etc, you have probably spent more time together than you otherwise would have. We have all made sacrifices missing a few baby groups in the grand scheme of things is trivial.

Exactly. You have options: defer or ask for part-time hours. You are, indeed, being quite pathetic.

Yanbu. My DD is about to start school and we've had to cancel going to Disney and a few other things because of Covid. We'll be limited to school holidays now and a lot of things will be out of our price range.

I'm shocked that votes are 72% YABU.

YANBU. Your last baby is off to big school and it's been a tough year. Having had a tough time before I'm not surprised you feel robbed.

My kiddo was ready for school, neither of us cried and it was a really positive time. I know some of my friends had a really hard time end or an era empty nesting. I didn't feel that way but can empathise with other people having a tough time.

Make plans for a lovely half term. I think schools may close or will only be back part time.

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I'm sorry but your post doesn't make any sense to me. You've had a lot of time with your family during lockdown. You could send her to school next year if you wanted to. She's probably desperate to meet and play with other children now. With respect, you seem like a 'glass half full person' and I think it's disappointing when people harbour these type of regrets that rob them of the joy of now. Being present today and feeling blessed.
We could all wander around turning positives into negatives, as you are doing,but it would suck the joy out of life and be very wearing on our families.

Yanbu for your feelings. My 3 yo is about to start school (no options for January defferal or part time hours, they don't exist here. It's full time school, start with your age group or don't start at all). It limits your options, no spontaneous days out anymore, can only do things in school holidays etc.

But like a pp said, focus on the positive, the things she'll come home chatting about having learned, the friends she'll make, the fun she'll have.

I get you OP. I've got a 3.5yo, an 11yo and a 13yo. My 3.5yo is due to start school next year and I have loved her babyhood. We're in Scotland and instead of her doing 4 mornings in pre-school nursery this year, due to COVID/cleaning, she is in a bubble doing 2 full days (packed lunch provided) - on the 2 days I don't work! I can't move my work days for other reasons. I was so looking forward to this last year of 2 afternoons a week together and I do feel robbed of that time and although I'm going to get a welcome 2 days a week to myself, I'm really going to miss her!

dont send here
home education is a legal option

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