To be sick to the back teeth of housework?

[Washingeveryday]

I'm just sick of the monotony.

Since March I've been working at home with my two children. I feel like all I've done is work, entertain kids, vacuum, make beds, load and unload a dishwasher, prep meals, clear up, do washing, clean the bathroom. I always seem to be the one to change the toothpaste or throw the empty toilet rolls away or hang up the wet bathmat. Sounds pathetic I know.

I'm no martyr, I only do what needs to be done, So long as the house is clean and tidy I'm not fussed about it being spotless, but I'm so bloody sick and tired of it.

Dh has worked all throughout the lockdown, he works long hours and lots of weekends, often unsociable hours, he barely gets any holiday. He does his bit when he's here but he's hardly ever here. Often when he does get home at a reasonable time he ends up getting work phone calls and catching up on paperwork. He's stressed, knackered.

I'm not hard done by, really, my dc are good kids and no trouble really and they will do jobs I give them.

I just feel so trapped sometimes.

I feel exactly the same. And I’m not even trying to work as well as am SAHM.

I hear you. I'm also a SAHM but it just literally never ends. I honestly don't know how you do and work too, you deserve a medal (and wine and spa day!). I feel particularly fed up today as DH was working from home and kept waking the baby up with his big booming work voice on the phone and Skype calls up and I needed him to sleep so I could get on with stuff.

It's bullshit! I agree. It doesn't help that we got the kids a sandpit which is tramped halfway around the house each day.

Same here

I do the bare minimum I really do

Cooking gets my goat too

It’s the little things that are slowly getting to me. I think I must wash all our glasses at least twice a day. Because everyone uses a fresh one each time, or they leave them dotted around the house and so need another one.

Does my head in.

Another sahm here. I think the endless cycle of household chores just gets me down. I unload dishwasher today and know I will be doing the same tomorrow. Clean the bathroom on Monday and know I will be back to cleaning it again on Wednesday ( 1 bathroom for 3 people) Oh hey! Look at me making another tuna sandwich, another meatloaf, another pasta and sauce.

My husband works the overnight shift and sleeps during the day. He contributes to the household as much as he can but really I do the bulk of housekeeping.

I feel blessed to have a weekly cleaner but that is for the big jobs I can’t do myself as I am disabled.

Me too! I think you are not alone. Counting down the days until the start of term !

Yep! I have fed the DC fish fingered for dinner because I couldn’t face messing the kitchen up by cooking when I cleaned it this afternoon.

I spent my whole life cleaning the kitchen. It’s driving me insane.

Yep.. sick to the back teeth of it. Plus it never stays clean for long. Then I sit down and see more jobs to do. Have also painted the front door, garden fence. Endless endless jobs. I have managed to declutter a lot so I am hoping that will help.

Batch cook or do simple meals like pasta pesto as much as I can. But it's the constant snacking and clearing up .hopeful this will ease up once we are back to work and school.

Housework is no fun, so put some in? Make yourself a star chart/tick list and award yourself a small treat when you've completed it?

If the children want their own after they see yours, they have to take some of the jobs off you i.e. toilet roll collection, bathmat retrieval.

I have a ticklist on the inside of a kitchen cupboard door, and get a ridiculous amount of satisfaction ticking things off as I do them.

The toasty bags are really handy for less mess at lunch plus the kids love them.

Totally agree. We've kind of given up in our house, just do the basic maintenance crap - dishwasher, laundry, cooking, tidying so we can move around freely, that kind of thing - and on top of that just try to make sure it's mostly hygienic so noone is going to get sick! 🙄 Every now and then we'll have a guilt-splurge and do a bit more, but not very often... usually only if someone's coming over. Fortunately we don't have many visitors!

Life's too short! 🤷‍♀️

Trying to get the kids outside to play so I can actually get 2 mins to myself
'Oh mum we love you though'.. we want to stay in... what can we eat?

I feel your pain OP. Sometimes I'm so sick of unloading and reloading the bloody dishwasher I could scream.
My DH is recovering from surgery so not able to do much at all and to make matters worse one of my DC has thread worms AGAIN - third time in 6 months so I am having to be even more obsessive about cleaning and washing towels, bedding and pyjamas, daily washing. Also all the dog walking is falling to me due to DH being off his feet - everything just feels like a chore right now.
As a PP said bring on the start of term! I cannot wait!

@sitckmansladylove what are toasty bags? Tell me more!

'Oh mum we love you though'..

This was my 4 year old's reason why he HAD to come in the bath with me the other day.

Probably my only bath this week 😭

This is me too. I shouldn’t moan since I don’t work and we are all well and healthy.
But why am I cleaning the kitchen all day every day?! Even when we have a takeaway I still end up having to clean the kitchen. There’s 4 of us at home for every meal since March. It’s relentless.

Same here.

Absolutely SICK. My DH has gone back to work now so it’s all me between 7-6ish with two under two.

Constant clearing away, prepping food, shopping, walking the dogs, hoovering, loading and unloading the dishwasher, washing, washing and more washing.

Then on a weekend I get to do it all for SC as well.

I’ve just started to implement a new method of focusing on a different room each day for 30 mins - this is on top of my usual bursts of 15 mins hoovering through and wipe down of kitchen and bathrooms etc. It’s definitely keeping the house cleaner having a bit more of a routine than just randomly tackling whatever I see in all different rooms.

I’m also on a mission to find ways to avoid mess, I’ve just invested in tray liners (already got oven liners and they’re great), running a sink of hot soapy water as I prep dinner and always cleaning the kitchen before bed! Because I fucking HATE coming down to a bombsite kitchen

You’re not alone and YANBU, it’s boring and relentless.

I hear ya!

The second thread today to sum up exactly how I'm feeling!

It's the endlessness of it all! Like someone said, unloading the dishwasher knowing you're going to be doing that later on as well. Cleaning the bathroom sink knowing there will be blobs of toothpaste on it by bedtime.

I feel like I've given up. Even the jobs I like doing feel so crap. There is mess everywhere. I am fed up of making meals. And as someone else pointed out, even a takeaway requires cleaning up (except pizza!).

I love my house but I hate that I'm not enthused about looking after it enough so I can enjoy it.

Oh my days ... I've found my people. I've cried twice this week at the monotony of it, I'm bored, feel unappreciated and sick of the sight of dirty pots, towels and boxer shorts

I hear you! I’ve felt my house was tidy precisely once in this lockdown and that was as a Sunday roast was cooking and we could actually have someone in the house, that inevitably created pots and so the mess returned.

I'm just so tired of having to try and organise housework around three bod's and a cat. I miss being able to do it in my own time at my own pace, not around kids not getting up until 11am (fine, but that means they don't clear up the kitchen until then, or put their washing out, or it means they're interminably occupying the bathroom), and DH's WFH meeting schedule - which can be from 7am until 11pm at night. . .

And I miss the sweet blessed silence. Or being able to play my absolutely dire taste in music, rather than listening to their equally dire but very different taste. . .

If you are both working , have a look at getting a cleaner

Oh, and I swear, if I empty the laundry basket to turn around and find it's been filled to the brim by a teenager whose mission in life is to wear as many outfits as possible in one day one more time. . .