Just want some other opinion on my situation as I am over being frustrated.
AIBU to want my hubby back????
So brief summary is ..... Hub and I got married 6 years back but been together much longer. We decided to relocate to kenya where we both originally from but hubby was raised, it seemed like a great idea we had big plans..... hubby moved and myself and our dd were suppose to relocate the following month. I found out I was pregnant and was forced to stay back in the UK, hub went ahead with the relocation plans and was even scotted and offered a job as a broadcaster which was great and he also started his own business which meant financial we would be more stable. A year and half after our DS was born we finally were all together again as a family.
While I tried my hardest to fit into a new society I felt very alone, all my family were back in the UK, hub was very understanding, I returned back to the uk about 4 times in the 3.5 years of being abroad. On our last return 3 years ago, I decided to remain in the UK with the children for a while, as the kids were gettting bigger, we couldn't keep moving them around they needed stability. Education wise the UK was much better, and I wanted them to have a better bond with my family. Hub was understanding and supportive of the decision.
Hub being a broadcaster was never a path he choose but he seems to be a natural at it and we decided to go with the flow and see where it takes him.
After being back for a year and a half, Kids and I miss him so much, although we speak via whatsapp video call everyday. I explained my feelings and thoughts with hub, he claimed to miss us just as much but he didn't want to return back as he has invested so much money in his own business and time in the broadcasting. As it was my decision to stay on in the UK, I didn't want to put pressure on him to return. I left the decison to him as i didn't want him to be miserable. The thing is it been 3 years since the kids and I have been back, and hub doesnt seem to have any plans of returning anytime soon. He visits at least twice a year, and was due to visit in April but due to corona he hasn't been able to return since december 2019. I spoke to hub yesterday and explained to him he really needs to come back, I told him we could build in the uk together and that he is missing out on the children growing up, he said i was emotionally blackmailing him.
Hubby and I seemed to always be on the same page but I think that has changed, it almost feels like he is happy being a part-time hubby/father. I am at my wits end and sometimes think we are better just seperating as I feel like I am a single parent. AIBU to want hub to come back?