To consider cosmetic surgery?

[DoItOrDont]

Well, I say cosmetic, which it partly is. But mainly it’s because I cannot cope with my humongous breasts! I’m so so so fed up.
I’m a 34HH. The rest of my frame is fairly small but they make me look huge. I have hideous indents in my shoulders from my bra straps (I get professionally fitted, I can’t go any tighter on my band without feeling like I’m suffocating) . They’re saggy. Very saggy. I’m so jealous of women who say they take their bra off as soon as they’re home, I can’t do that until the second I get into bed.
I’ve always had breasts like this, since I was young. My mum never took me to get properly fitted for a bra when I was developing so they never had the required support. Which I’m guessing is why they’re so saggy.

But. I’m terrified of getting them done. Terrified of surgery. Of general anaesthetic. Of the pain. If something goes wrong.
But I’m 31. I’m thinking if I’m going to do it then now would be the time instead of waiting until I’m older and regretting now doing it sooner, or never at all.
I have young DC. I feel it’s selfish to risk my life for this. What if I die and they are left without me?
I’m just so miserable. Nothing fits me. I look like a walking tent most of the time. If I do wear something fitted then I feel like I’m on display.
And the back ache! It’s terrible and I know it will only get worse.
I’m high risk for osteoporosis and worry about the weight of my breasts. There’s also the cost involved.

What would you do? Given how fed up I am but also equally terrified?

YABU - put up & shut up
YANBU - get them done!

Sorry this is so long! I’ve been up all night thinking about it all.

I'm in such a similar position to you- 34K and would love a reduction! Would hate to abuse NHS resources but don't think I'll ever be able to afford it privately.

Rubbish isn’t it @lyingonthesofa

Would you consider talking to your gp?

@DoItOrDont I have thought about it but never quite been brave enough to do it!

@lyingonthesofa that’s how I feel. It’s been constantly at the back of mind for years. Then got pregnant and life just seemed to pass by but the unhappiness has always been there.

I don’t know why I’m thinking about it so much atm. I’m just so tired of lugging them around, it’s exhausting. I’ve lost 1.5 stone recently and nothing has come off my breasts 😢
Apparently I’m at my ideal weight now but I’m going to push to lose another stone in the vain hope I suddenly get smaller boobs.

@DoItOrDont

Thanks 😊

I don’t think going abroad would be a viable option for me. I’ve got the kids to think about and I’ve heard too many scary stories about surgery in other countries.

I will try the nhs route first... although it doesn’t feel right to be asking them for things like this, it really is affecting my health and I’m not just doing it for vanity reasons.

To anyone who has had it, did you have to have drains attached? That sounds utterly horrendous to me 😳

I didn't need drains when I had mine done.

I did have mine done on the NHS but that was 10 years ago now.

Knowing what I know now about the difference it made to me, I would 100% save up to afford it, even if it took me years.

To be honest, I probably will save up to do it in future again. Not so much the volume as I'm okay with that now, but an uplift. Since having DS, my boobs have gone saggy. I'd like one more child in the future and after that, I'd probably save up to have a slight reduction/uplift again x

Omg, definitely get it done. From what you've described, this isn't "cosmetic", it's medical and necessary anyone who looks askance at you for seeing to this medical issue is a dim prick.

YADNBU!