AIBU Morning Routines

[Ahardknocklife]

hi all, a rather stressful start to the morning.

Short and sweet back ground. Every morning I'm up, empty dishwasher, feed dog, water plants, make breakfast and coffee's, generally Potter and clean from night before and put a wash on. DP gets up showers, checks his laptop, eats breakfast, gets himself a glass of water and starts work. We both work from home and have done prior to the virus. So... with a leak under the sink this morning splitting the veneer on our new kitchen cupboards. I ask DP to please get up earlier and help me in the morning. This has turned into a steaming argument.

So... AIBU to ask for him to get up 15 minutes earlier and help out in the morning?

Or YABU = just get on with it and DP should be entitled to the routine he wants in the morning.

So you go to bed earlier and get up earlier. He goes to bed later and gets up later. Neither one is more ‘virtuous’ than the other, just different sleeping patterns.
If he tidied up after himself before going to bed, there would be no need for him to get up earlier.
Have to admit though the whole rigidity of the morning tidying up routine is a bit baffling to me. We have three young children and a dog, we’re both working from home and mornings are just sheer madness trying to get everyone clean, fed and dressed . Chores get done when they’re done.

Thanks all.

General consensus appears to be:

He should pick up after himself and help but in his own time.

I agree that I can be a tad controlling in context of why delay when it can be done now!?!

Thanks all. I guess the world isn't going to end if the empty cans stay on the side etc.

He is an adult and can make his own food etc

I think you are being a bit unreasonable to expect him to get up and help you - I think he should decide what he does and when to make things equal. However, if I came down and there were beer cans and wrappers from the night before it would only happen once. There is no way I'd cook him breakfast and coffees, I just do my own.

Why are you acting like the unpaid housekeeper?