AIBU to let get my 10 year old to shave

[mummyof2boys30]

My DS10 has really dark hair and now has a really bad black moustache. He has mentioned it a few times that he doesn't like it. Is he too young to start shaving? Or what should I get for him? Thinking a wee electric one with him being so young. He has another year at primary school so if he doesn't do it this year I'd imagine definately before secondary school.

Yanbu

If your child wants to shave of course you should let them.

I think a little electric one would be perfect, as there is less risk of harm using one compared to a normal razor

YANBU to let him shave. Mine shaves and I pluck his mono brow regularly

Some kids develop more quickly than others and it’s fine as they don’t want to appear the odd one out.

This is probably a really bad idea, but to avoid stubble and keep the growth thin during the next few years, would you consider a Philips Lumea? Once he's 14 or 15 I imagine he won't mind having stubble. Just wouldn't want him to be bullied for being different.

I don't think a Philips lumea is such a good idea for boys. When he's older he might want to grow a full beard and it might permanently weaken hair growth. I think he is a bit young to start shaving his face mainly because of the risks of cutting or bringing himself out in a skin rash. Don't forbid it but try to discourage it for at least a while. That's what I would do.

Definitely let him. My ten year old daughter shaves her arm pits and legs and gets her eyebrows waxed because shes super hairy and feels self conscious when none of her friends are yet..so I dont see the difference if a boy wanted to.

Any electrical razor is not going to do any harm to his skin and it still bum fluff I assume (even though it's black) so I doubt its going to look like a 5 o clock shadow after saving it.

*shaving

Yanbu at all! It’s this kind of thing where it can go one of 2 ways.

1. Let him shave, problem solved. His peers will the do the same just slightly later and will become a non issue.
2. Don’t let him, and he becomes completely hung up about it so that even once he is shaving, you find he’s still pissed off about it.

Electric is a good idea. If mainly for top lip I’d look for one with a smallish head.

Ds2 (12) has similar. I ve told him he looks fine (he does) but it bothers him. We're buying him a razor next week.

Personally I wouldn't let him shave yet as it can make the hairs grow back thicker and make him feel more uncomfortable about this. I'd reccomend a hair removal pad. You can get them pretty cheap from amazon but be careful not to rub to hard as it can be abit saw and leave a mark( talking from experience lol). Or maybe even a sensitive hair removal cream, I know this may not seem very " manly" but at least it will prevent thick stubble.

Just get him a electric buzz shaver and he can swipe at it daily at his own pace. It doesn't have to be a big deal.

Let him indeed. It's his hair. if he wants to shave it off then provide him with the necessaries.

Mine are 13 and 16 and haven't needed to shave yet, but they're both really light haired - if he needs to though, why wouldn't you let him shave if he wants to?
You wouldn't be unreasonable at all

Yanbu. Mine started shaving with a wee travel electric razor aged 12.

Takes him seconds, no nicks and it's only really dark bumfluff so he only has to do it once a week or so.

I'd let him shave but I wouldn't encourage him to use Philips Lumea or hair removal cream

It’s a myth the hair grows back thicker

Definitely let him. Nothing worse then feeling self conscious especially at an age where other kids pick up on things.

If he shaves he’ll end up with 5 o’clock shadow. I know this from experience with dark hair. That often ends up looking worse than the hair.

At this age I think the best thing you can do is book a virtual session with an Arab or South Asian beauty therapists / threader who has experience of hair removal for children, and see what they recommend.

I don’t see shaving at 10 as a problem, I let my boys start shaving early because they are mixed race (south Asian/white) and had a tash that was just there and not puberty related. My youngest son had a tash/mono-brow combo from about 2! I resisted doing anything until they mentioned it themselves and they started shaving at about 12 but they were actually a lot later starting puberty than some of their fair haired friends but they didn’t need to shave until well into teenage years.

Thank you for all your comments. Was expecting to be bombarded with he's to young comments. He also has a slight mono Bro though he hasn't mentioned it yet. Can't believe I'm having to think of this already. Doesn't seem that long ago he was a baby lol

I've certainly never noticed a 5 o'clock shadow on ds. He's nearly 14 now, has been shaving for 2 years and doesn't seem to have any more facial hair than he did when he started. It's just more obvious on him rather than his friends because he's got very dark hair and pale skin.

Just let him run a little electric razor over it as he sees fit.

Don't do anything like hair removal creams or those Lumea things. They can permanently damage the hair follicles and he wouldn't be able to grow in "proper" facial hair if he wants to, in years to come.

Absolutely remove what is at the surface and above, but don't compromise the hair structure below the skin. He won't thank you for it in 10 years time.

Yes let him shave, it won’t do him any harm at all and he’ll feel so much happier at school. My DH is 45 now but he still remembers how upset he was at a similar age to your Ds when his dad wouldn’t let him shave and he’s eternally grateful to his mum for overriding his dad and letting him shave.

As soon as I noticed my DS was getting a bit of facial hair I bought him an electric shaver and handed it to him. No fuss. I just told him to use it if he wanted to. He was just coming up to 13.