To expect upstairs neighbours to let me know they're having work done?

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Fully prepared to be told IABU. I live in a flat and my upstairs neighbours are having work done and it truly sounds like they've been dropping bowling balls on my ceiling for three days straight.

I can put up with the noise because I understand, needs must, but it would have surely been polite to at least slip a note through my door to let me know what was happened. I've seen them carrying out the wood flooring to a van so they're clearly ripping up the floors which is obviously very noisy and right above my bedroom.

Now I'm NOT working from home but the neighbours don't know that... maybe I am being petty but I just would've liked a bit of warning, and maybe have been told how long it's likely to go on for at least

They don't have to, but common courtesy would expect them to.....but such is life. Sorry its bothering you - maybe you could pop up and just politely ask how long it will be taking?

You have my sympathies. We've had heavy duty works going on next door (semi detached house) for the last 7 weeks. There were days when I was on the verge of tears with it. The new neighbour will not be getting a particularly warm reception when she moves in.

YANBU. A little note or quick conversation would go a long way but don’t expect to find much sympathy here. Once posted about having work around us happening every single day, literally 7 days a week, including Sunday’s for months during lockdown when we couldn’t go ANYWHERE to escape the noise and got told IABU and to just deal with it because they obviously want their house/garden/renovation/loft/landscaping done quick. So tough titty to me and my mental health I guess.

Housing association putting us through a roof renewal. Stomping banging and drilling and for a couple of days it sounded like there was a jumbo jet engine in the ceiling. We are in a flat on the top floor (two storey) We are on Week NINE of this. Will be week 10 next Monday.

@HollyCarrot

You have my sympathies. We've had heavy duty works going on next door (semi detached house) for the last 7 weeks. There were days when I was on the verge of tears with it. The new neighbour will not be getting a particularly warm reception when she moves in.

You are going to be rude to someone because they had work done to the house before moving in? Makes no sense

Yanbu. That was incredibly thoughtless and impolite of them. I honestly can't bear how so many people have no manners ! I'm also willing to bet that one of those neighbours will claim to have some sort of "anxiety" that prevents them from knocking on your door and just talking to you.

I think sometimes we just have to accept that building/DIY work needs doing and that parts of it are noisy. If people didn't replace things like kitchens, floors, roofs from time to time, our houses would be unfit to live in.

It's polite to let neighbours know though, and to avoid working late into the evening or early in the morning.

Of course building work needs to be done. And of course neighbours need to be warned in advance and taken into account throughout the build. Anything else is staggeringly antisocial.

I'm going to make the same effort she's made with us ie ignore her. You reap what you sow etc.

Its polite but they dont have to, i hope it finishes soon!

My absolute sympathy for those who have been dealing with this for weeks on end it really is awful. I'm definitely one for politeness and manners and I think I'd be able to grin and bear it a bit better if I'd had some notice at least.

I got woken up at 8am this morning to more bashing. I know that's not that early but I work late nights in a bar so I only got in at 1:30am.

I do appreciate things need done, but it's still annoying to have to listen to!

But them telling you doesn’t make it any less noisy or annoying? Whilst yes it would have been nice for them to tell you, it doesn’t actually make a difference to the nuisance?

@emmaluggs yes and no. The noise isn't any different but psychologically every time i hear it I get extra wound up because I'm also annoyed they didn't give me the courtesy of letting me know, whereas if they had I would only be annoyed at the noise itself