Ghosted... Do I block him on all apps?

[somesseditup]

Even if we are not friends or followers to one another on most of them. I really never want him within an asses roar of me again so don't want to take a chance.
I've never been ghosted before. I cannot get my head round the fact that my judgement was so bad. I really thought he was a good man with integrity, class and great communication skills.
Now I see that there is something fundamentally wrong with him as he used a tragic story to reel me in , even though it was true , and then rejoined tinder at a time when I was led to believe he was depressed and guilt ridden. I'm really mad with myself as I was kind and patient.
How can I ensure zero contact and move on please?

Block away. Also remember to block his number on your phone.

I'm so embarrassed that I can't really discuss it in real life as I feel like such a gullible idiot.i had told my friends that I had met someone I believed to be special. What a bloody fool I was.

Sounds a lot like some tosser I met who got under my skin with a sad tale then disappeared.

I felt gullible and silly too but it wasn't poor judgement. Sounds as though he actively lied to you about wanting a relationship etc with a view to pulling you in for the short term.. It's not as though you saw clues that weren't there, you were tricked (I believe the things the bloke I met were also true, just wildly inappropriate to use when angling for a casual shag).

Get him blocked. At least then you haven't got half an eye on your phone thinking 'well, he might get in touch one day'.

Thanks.
I've now blocked him on all platforms even though we are only friends on one.
I think twitter lets you know when you've been blocked? Can anybody clarify?
He can't possibly contact me.
He is a bad man.

How long did you chat/meet for?

I think twitter only lets you know if you go in and search for that persons profile.

Only a few months but he used the word depression to explain why he had reduced contact and eventually faded and ghosted me.Next thing I find him back on tinder a few weeks into thinking he was hardly able to function( as he had told me).

Twitter doesn't inform a person when blocked. Unfortunately ghosting is more than common these days.

I'm now wondering how f it's strange to be blocking him on Sm when we are not friends on most of them? I really don't want any contact from him but it seems like I've stalked him and blocked him

Absolutely block everywhere including your phone and WhatsApp. Don’t worry about it looking like you’ve stalked him. It sends a very clear message that you are done with his shit and he has no way of trying to work his way back in.

Don’t beat yourself up too much - most people on OLD have had this. It’s not a reflection on you, it’s totally and only on them.

Onwards and well done for taking out the trash!

oh it's horrendous it's just happened to me and I'm heartbroken and angry
Blocked everywhere

@somesseditup

I'm so embarrassed that I can't really discuss it in real life as I feel like such a gullible idiot.i had told my friends that I had met someone I believed to be special. What a bloody fool I was.

Don't be embarrassed, this reflects on him not you.

Block away OP- block away. You don’t need someone like that in your life

Don’t over think it. It doesn’t really matter about blocking, if you know you’ll ignore any contact - which he probably won’t make anyway, as he chose the reduce and then stop contact. But if it’s easier not to even think about having to ignore - then yeah, block and forget about him. Don’t over think it - there are lots of liars out there, and lots of people who find it less awkward to let contact drift than have the “end” conversation. So there’s no point beating yourself up about something that wasn’t your fault!

Don't trust myself not to go absolutely crazy if he ever tried to contact me, so this way I'm not tempted to lose my mind . I am absolutely seething.I genuinely believed he was at risk of self harm and was so worried about him and sent regular messages wishing him well. The absolute fucker. He used me and abused my good nature. It's hard not to want revenge.

These emotional vampires are prevalent on dating apps.

They tell you stuff to give you a false sense of emotional closeness, use you to massage their ego, then drop you because they don't get the same 'fix' from your attention anymore and reel the next person in.

You have nothing to be embarrassed about op.

Well done on blocking him, just be more wary next time.

Thanks. I have spent the last hour writing furiously on what NOT To do on line ever again. I want to learn from this.
I am trying to turn my thinking around to him being the biggest loser of all time . Fucker. Thanks

You have my full sympathy OP and you're 100% doing the right thing.

I got ghosted by someone I'd been seeing for over two years.

He eventually text again after 6-8 weeks at which point I delivered a scathing character assassination and blocked him everywhere. Wish now I'd just blocked immediately but hey ho.

Despite therapy etc I still struggle with it and have massive fear of abandonment issues which occasionally affect my wonderful relationship with my now DP.

Ghosting is just the shittiest way to treat someone 😔.

Two years!!!!!! That is horrendous. Did you not see any red flags or was there any massive change in his mental health or life? I'm sorry You went through this. I am fit to be tied today with anger so I can only imagine what you went through . Bastard .

Met a fine example of a "man:" on tinder a few years ago. We ended up being mates and hanging out. Omg I had such a lucky escape. Because I was a mate I saw the "dating" side of him, listened to the utter bollocks he told these woman. Remember having a chat with one on the phone telling her to run for the fucking hills and really think about what he did for her.

The last message I got from him was moaning because I had done to him exactly what he had done to several females and what was worse I never put out. I did send him a response to that one - what's the problem, it was all good fun right. Nobody got hurt.

It's what he'd say whilst fucking over people.

I've been ghosted, let them in and done it all back to them when they didn't see it coming. So much fun, them texting you for forgiveness and completely blanked. I don't even give them the satisfaction of blocking them 🤣

Twitter you will be unsearchable to them. However, nothing to stop them opening up another account.

Dont become a fear of abandonment ruin your current relationship @quentinquarantino.

Either a relationship is good and it lasts.
Or it isnt good and it doesnt last
But don't poison the good by fear of being abandont. Because then it becomes, basically, a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Embrace what you got. Cherise it. Dont scare it off by fearing it might leave you.

Anyone can be abandoned. At any stage. But no good comes from selfsabotaging the good. You have the good. You have what other people dream off. Now hold onto it.

Sorry op. Back to you now.
Youve done well. Block him, cut him out of your life and avoid him possibly one day contacting you via Twitter with some gaslighting bullshit.

Come clean to your friends as well. They will not judge but sympathise. That is why friendship is magical. You can share pain and experiences. And together you grow and learn. Dont feel like this is something to be embarrassed about. It isnt something that you could have know. Nor could you have changed the outcome.

Share it. And then welcome potential new love in again when you are ready.

Thanks. That was a lovely
Message. I appreciate it very much.
I have blocked him on every single app I am on. And
My phone . I really am
In shock actually . I'm new to the game as you can see!

Name changed just for this thread.

It's shit OP, it really is. But just to echo what other posters have said... it says more about the ghoster than you.

I've recently been ghosted. No reply to a message I sent at the weekend and we slept together for the first time last week. What a gent!

I feel foolish for believing what he told me... I thought I'd found someone decent and he seemed different to other guys I'd met through online dating.
Turns out he's just the same as all the other arseholes.

I'm consoling myself with the fact that if he can do that, then he's not someone I'd want to be with anyway but it still bloody hurts and has left me questioning everything about myself.

You sound lovely, and have behaved with dignity which in the situation you're in is admirable.

I just wish people were more honest instead of just ghosting. It's the cowards way out and is very upsetting.