Am I wrong?

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Every morning I feed LO. Bottle and breakfast. Takes ages as she is slow. Every other day I bath her.

Last night was rough. Hot. She woke up at 3am and didn't go back to sleep until 6:00am.

When she woke up I got bath ready to wash her. I asked husband ( who leaves work at 11) to prepare scrambled egg for her breakfast.

(I have been working from home but on holiday this week)

I asked him if he could feed LO while I took a 15 min nap. I really needed it. Been working at home and looking after LO all alone.

30 mins later I check and she has eaten nothing.. I said if she isn't eating her egg you could have prepared her cereal.

He left the room went into the kitchen and took cake from the fridge and just ate it?

I was really annoyed. It's hot. She refused her bottle this morning so I thought it's ok as she will have breakfast. He just sat there with her.

I told him to piss off and go back to sleep.

Was I wrong to be annoyed? Surely feed the baby first then yourself? That is what I do..

And I just wanted a little sleep which I haven't had in ages! No rota. I'm the one on baby duty every morning. Work or no work.

You’re not wrong. He’s a selfish bastard. Have you asked why he doesn’t care about his child?

So you're on holiday this week? I think you're being a little U. Could be the heat. You can nap in the day.

Baby may just not have been hungry. I don't see the big deal in grabbing yourself something to eat before offering baby different food. I'll quite often make my baby and me something for breakfast, and if she doesn't eat it, I will eat mine first and then make her something else, there's no rush unless they're crying in hunger.

But I suspect that's not what has actually upset you. You clearly feel he isn't pulling his weight and everything is left to you. Have you spoken to him about how you feel?

Well it sounds like he tried and she didn't want it? If she wouldn't have her milk, it's not surprising that she might not want anything else.

If my OH told me to piss off in this instance, I'd be fuming.

Sorry just to make it clear - she did eat cereal and had banana. He said he wasn't going to prepare anything else. He also won't take any holiday days off because apparantly it's easy to work than look after a baby!

How old is the baby? And how much does he do?

If you've been up for three hours in the night and he doesn't go to work until 11, it seems obvious to me you need a longer sleep than 15 minutes and he should do his share. No sense you struggling through the day exhausted when you don't need to.

If he's working full time, and you're home with the baby full time (?), then he needs to pitch in some of the time when he's at home. Otherwise, you're going to get exhausted, especially if you're getting very broken sleep.

If he thinks it's so easy, let him try being the one to get up in the night on the weekend.

(Btw, please ignore me if I am saying the obvious, but in this weather I'd worry about dehydration more than food.)

I mean he tried to feed her and she didn't eat it? I think you are BU

How old is DD?

ID say he needs to look after her alone more, but frankly if you think he'd not have the initiative to feed her or give her a drink cos he CBA, I'd be questioning the relationship