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8 replies

Foreversweets · 13/08/2020 07:56

Hi. Abit of an odd one. Twice in the last six weeks I've arranged to meet my friend and on the day she tells me a member of her family is coming or she has forgot she's meeting this family member. Much older than us and male. I'm always welcome to go along aswel but I decline because it feels a strange thing to tag along too. Especially because my children are young and my 2 year old daughter especially gets bored of sitting after 5 minutes. We arranged for Monday but I was unwell with the heat and my head was pounding. Tuesday was baking hot again and it would have been too much for the kids and the dogs. So we are supposed to be meeting today.

Because a couple of times lately it seems she's double booked and it's never an option to reschedule the other person, I'm half wanting her to contact me first today and arrange it. But usually I would text and confirm things. So my question is

If you were me would you let her text you first and then you know she definitely is free and wants to meet.

Or would you text her because you was unwell Monday and we said today instead.

I know she isn't making excuses as I'm always invited too. But I think she invites me too so she doesn't feel bad for the double booking. I don't want to end up being offered a third time and having to say no.

What would you do?

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DaphneFanshaw · 13/08/2020 08:00

If your cancelled last time then I would text.

User563420011 · 13/08/2020 08:01

Did you make any firm plans for today? I would have to text her to confirm if so. If you didn't arrange a time/place to meet then leave it to her and have a back up plan for your kids if you don't hear by x time.

Foreversweets · 13/08/2020 08:05

Hi yes that's what I thought because I asked to pick another day this week.

We dont have a firm plan just a walk and we usually end up getting ice cream and stuff.

Usually we'd meet around 11.

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MiddleClassProblem · 13/08/2020 08:09

If you want to see her, text her.

MsMarple · 13/08/2020 08:14

Don’t take this the wrong way, but are you sometimes a bit flaky or casual about plans? You mention cancelling Monday for a headache, and Tuesday for the heat - is this something you do often? Double booking is weird, unless she has experienced you blowing her out at the last minute - or not committing firmly to a date - once too often.

Foreversweets · 13/08/2020 08:16

No not at all. We didn't arrange Tuesday anyway. We spoke about today as it's cooler.

Monday was a bad day and genuine.

Remember it's been lockdown so we've only just started being able to meet.

We do the school runs etc alot together. I don't mess her about no...

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ScorpioSphinxInACalicoDress · 13/08/2020 08:16

You cancelled last, so you should contact her today to confirm.

Does she have children?

Foreversweets · 13/08/2020 08:30

Yes she has a six year old daughter.

I have a 2 and 6 year old both girls.

Ok yes I will do thanksSmile

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