I am back home for a staycation, although staying in an Airbnb. My parents are elderly. My dear father had been on the shielding list. My mother is hard work. I just want to cry right now. I moved far away because she is quite toxic. She has had mental health problems, but has no insight. She treats my dad like a slave despite his health. I gently try to suggest that he should be taking it easy, but she’s constantly giving him demands. If you don’t answer her calls, she phones and phones and phones. She takes advantage of everyone around her.....I’m posting this because I asked her to stand back from a friend she’s been asking to pick up this and that all the time. It’s not stuff she needs...she just has no issue in asking people to do stuff for her. I said to stand back as I had heard about a certain situation where she had taken advantage. She asked who is causing trouble, rather than see any error in what she had done. She went stony faced and wouldn’t talk anymore about it.
I think I just need to vent here. Apologies, I’ve posted before about her.
She was sectioned when I was a baby, with paranoid psychosis, and I spent so many years trying to be understanding, but I can’t take it anymore. I know I can’t change her, but I just don’t like her, and I can’t take my dad away from it. It will be the death of him. He had a stroke two years ago, and he had apparently carried a chair she bought from the next town shortly before it happened. He’s nearly 80. She cannot see that this is wrong.
We had social services come around, but she hurried them away. She will not have authority help due to that paranoid side of her, but certainly expects people to run around her. She’s so manipulative it scares me.
Everyone says you should love your mother, but I cannot stand her. She could be violent when I was growing up, but in her head she’s a mild nature’s sweet person...it’s just not true.