To have another baby

[namechangeokay]

I had a baby four months ago and I think I’m pregnant again. I’m not 100% sure but I’m fretting about it already so could do with some opinions/advice. I’ve done six pregnancy tests. Four clear blue which were all faint positives though one I did last night was much stronger than the days before. Two negatives on FR which I did four days ago. Going to get hold of another FR tonight but they don’t do them in my local Tesco so haven’t been able to.

I’m in my mid-twenties and before my son had been told I’d never have children due to my chronic illness. So of course it was a surprise and I didn’t have the easiest pregnancy. Having a baby has hit us hard financially. We weren’t trying for another baby and hadn’t planned on having one for at least another few good years. Had a couple of accidents and took the morning after pill both times, and have been using condoms (I can’t take any other form of contraception for medical reasons).

I only tested on a whim because I had started experiencing some things I had in pregnancy.

I love my baby to bits, and though I’m pro-choice, knowing how much I love him I’m just not sure I could have an abortion, I’m worried about what it would do to be mentally when I already have mental health issues.

My family would be furious with me understandably. My partner is neutral about it and has said if I am, he’ll do whatever I want to do. That although it’s really not good timing, it is what it is and we’ll get through it.

I’m going to do another test this evening and tomorrow morning and see what happens, but while I’m sat here fretting I was just wondering if I could get some advice/opinions.

Has anyone else had babies this close in age, and what was it like?

If I am, would it be absolutely crazy to keep it?

Thank you.

I can’t use any contraception other than copper coil which makes me bleed extremely heavily and condoms too. I’ve ended up pregnant. People take the use of hormonal contraceptives for granted; it’s not easy if you can’t have them. I think you want the baby from what I’ve read. Yes it’s hard, but it’s worth it. My older two had 20 months between them and they have always fought, but they love each other. Unless your doctor says no way, I can’t really see a reason for you not to go ahead with the pregnancy. Your OH has been supportive too, which is ideal. Good luck.

I hope the outcome is what you would want, imo your family have no right to be angry, it isn't their life it's yours and you need to do what's best for you, nobody else

I hate those CB tests personally. I have had one look like that before and I wasn't pregnant.

I'd stick with FRER. You can buy them online to be delivered if no shop near you does them.

I can’t really see a reason for you not to go ahead with the pregnancy

Well I think the biggest thing is going to be finances. If money is tight now it will be even tighter with two. Can you afford it?

I don't think there is anything wrong with asking yourself these sorts of questions. I know emotions get very tied up in these decisions but this is important as well.

I fell pregnant again with a 3 month old baby. It was a shock and it was scary but I'm so glad things turned out that way now. The kids are close, I still had all the baby things i.e. prams, cots, sterilisers - so, it saved money that I may have had to outlay again if I had waited a few years.
I got the nappy stage, the sleepless night stage etc all out of the way in one (crazy) phase and now the kids are young teens, I have my life back.

Did you test again @namechangeokay ?