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No thought has been put into the fact that DC are on school holidays - AIBU

324 replies

FatalDistraction · 12/08/2020 10:28

DC are off in school holidays after being stuck in for months before hand. There is very little for them to do. It's OK to shop till you drop with a mask on, but opening places for children to play and get some exercise....oh that's just too much.

I just logged on to book some cinema tickets to have something for my DC to do. There is one movie, opening at the end of August and it is a 13. There are millions of DC off school, not going on holiday, with nothing to do and they decide to put a violent, older movie on. They could have rehashed Frozen, Trolls, put on some other loved movie if there is nothing new, but no, they think we all want to see Tenet.

No one has put any thought into the fact that DC have been off for ages, are on holiday with nothing to do and are going round the bend. But shopping, that's ok. It is no wonder there are children in my town turning on others in the parks when they have nothing to do.

Shame on the lot of them.

OP posts:
GisAFag · 12/08/2020 13:48

Wow lets kust open everything up, het back tonjow things were and not spend a moment lonher worrying about covid.

Okeydokeypiginapokey · 12/08/2020 13:57

Tell them to read a book.

DeepTreacle · 12/08/2020 13:58

Very few of the nasty commenters on here would have coped with preschoolers in lockdown, for all their sadfaces at parents today, I can guarantee it. People forget.

comingintomyown · 12/08/2020 13:59

Whilst I have said I think YABU I don’t think all the posts talking about childhood experiences growing up in the 70s and 80s are helpful. We were brought up with no expectations and our lives were lived in tandem with the times.
Telling people now who themselves were brought up in an era of mobile phones, screens in general and a wealth of entertainment to take their DC to a field and make the best of it like they did in 1973 is unfair.

Mrsmadevans · 12/08/2020 14:10

Get the Swingball out , the sprinklers , the paddling pool , water slide, sandpits , water tables, the badminton/tennis raquets, lovely walks down the river, lake or whatever water attraction you have near you. Go out to have a picnic , get the Dc to help prepare it , Make ice cream from scratch , lollipops from scratch , lemonade . Do a BBQ. Go to the park, have a look at the local museums, the Castles, the local attractions. Get them to take pictures of the places they go to an do a jounal . All it takes is a bit of imagination and a little prep and you have plenty of activities to do and go to .

Durgasarrow · 12/08/2020 14:11

When I was growing up, I spent my summers baby-sitting my little brothers and reading. They spent their summers digging holes in the backyard, making up games., etc. Boring, but normal. All survived. This stuff is all normal. It's good for kids to be bored. That's when they start to do creative things.

Mrsmadevans · 12/08/2020 14:11

'an do a jounal'
& DO A JOURNAL

year5teacher · 12/08/2020 14:13

Not everything revolves around people with kids, you haven’t been “let down” because there’s a film on that isn’t suitable for your child. 😬
I can understand your frustrations but this seems like you’ve just drawn a mad conclusion (“no one cares about children”) because your local cinema doesn’t have a film on that your kids can watch...

heartsonacake · 12/08/2020 14:19

YABU. Your kids are yours to entertain; nobody else’s.

We can’t just open everything back up at the drop of a hat with no concern for social distancing, the economy, staff etc. These things need to be carefully considered and not opened on the whinges of parents who want to offload their kids.

Enoughnowstop · 12/08/2020 14:22

It's not £££ to go camping, it's not £££ to go to the countryside and on a picnic

If you have a car, tent, camping stove, sleeping bags, cool box....and if you are stuck in an urban area without your own transport, getting to the countryside can be very costly. Even with a car, driving 50 miles there and 50 back can make a dent in someone’s tight budget.m

HPandTheNeverEndingBedtime · 12/08/2020 14:22

Most things are open in my area, family sessions at the lido, zoos, beaches, parks, cinemas with a range of films for kids, local pleasure Beach and amusements all with social distancing and bookable timrslots for limited places. The only thing that doesn't seem to be is the soft play and its too hot for that anyway. In fact our life is pretty much back to normal, Dds clubs are back with appropriate safety measures in place.

OP it sounds like you just live in a bit of a crappy area for these things.

nevermorelenore · 12/08/2020 14:25

In our area, pretty much all the usual school holiday activities we'd do are open. The only ones that are off the table are soft play and cinema. We've still managed to do swimming, pick your own fruit, playgrounds, parks, a small local zoo, day trip to the seaside and a theme park. Fewer playdates, as they are a little trickier to plan, and obviously attractions need to be booked in advance, but otherwise, it's just another school holiday.

m0therofdragons · 12/08/2020 14:27

We’ve had meals out, picnics, beach trips, a boat trip, visited 2 zoos, met friends in the park, had friends to play in the garden, done crafts, watched films... with 3 dc we’re having a great summer and other than the addition of masks the dc hardly know anything is wrong. We should be flying to Florida next Tuesday but obviously it’s been cancelled but still my dc haven’t complained once. Get a grip!

welcometohell · 12/08/2020 14:28

Shame on the lot of them

That's a bit dramatic, isn't it? Shame on who? The government, the cinema? I don't understand who you're angry at.

Parks are open, nature trails are open, zoos are open, NT gardens are open, some museums and galleries are open, libraries are open round here, theme parks and children's farms are open. There are plenty of places to take kids but if you want them to watch a film you can put one on for them at home. I don't see a problem.

DorisLessingsLesson · 12/08/2020 14:32

Staff at our local pool have said that they are not opening the pool because they don't want to pay lifeguards and cleaners whilst the government are paying them
I doubt very much that they said. They are prioritising health. Entertainment is on you.
There's also lots of places open for kids from safari parks to open air cinemas. In fact your OP is such obvious nonsense, I don't understand why you posted.

IncrediblySadToo · 12/08/2020 14:33

Take their screens off of them, they'll learn to make their own fun like we did.

Kids get 'bored' because they're so used to all singing, all dancing screens. And being taken to activities all the time

If you're feeling flush, order some fun craft supplies and let their imaginations run riot.

Let them play out.

Pack of cards

Loads

Plus, if you must, there are places open, you just have to search for them.

MaskingForIt · 12/08/2020 14:34

Shame on the lot of them.

This may come as a shock, but it is your job to entertain your children, not the government’s.

We didn’t have all these amusements provided when we were children, so we had to use our imagination and find our own fun. Maybe encourage your children to do the same?

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 12/08/2020 14:48

Very few public swimming pools are opening to children. The only one within 20 miles of me which has is a very cold outdoor pool (only 19 degrees) which is not suitable for very young children.

Where I live the local national trust place is impossible to get tickets for unless you wait up until midnight.

The only things that have really opened are the most expensive tourist attractions. Council run cheaper things are by and large closed or restricted to children.

charcoalgrey · 12/08/2020 14:49

There are loads of things to do in my area, lots more parks and playgrounds to explore (that we couldn't do before as we were avoiding public transport), funfair, boat trips, museums, galleries, aquarium, zoo, gardens, wildlife parks, crazy golf, pools, trampoline park, city farm. Also there are some outdoor music and sports classes for dc nearby. Obviously lots of places don't have all of those things near them but but we're having to travel to get to most of them, and it's worth it though to keep them entertained. I've been holding back on longer trips myself as DD has been toilet training, and feeling like we've been missing out on all the interesting things that are reopening.

Figgygal · 12/08/2020 14:54

You are being ridiculous and entitled I don’t know where you live unless it’s somewhere in lockdown a lot of places are open.

Even our local indoor activity centres are open

who is “they”? And why is it someone else’s responsibility to entertain your kids

coffeeandgin26 · 12/08/2020 15:03

I've got four kids.

We've gone for walks and plays on the beach (granted, luckily enough to live by one), played in the park, taken paint to the park to do painting, gone for walks. We've just come back from having lunch at the garden centre for half price and choosing new plants for the house.

When it's raining, we paint, we have film afternoons, we do junk modelling etc.

I spend no more than £40-50 entertaining the kids and that's with food and drinks if we go out. There's plenty to do!

funkyblackbird · 12/08/2020 15:11

@SkatingWithBears

Parks, forests etc are pretty rammed too...
There are plenty of places to go to that aren't, you just choose carefully. We have been out to the countryside and have barely seen anybody, certainly nowhere we have been going to has been rammed. We drove through a town in the Cotswolds on the way somewhere else and that was rammed but it's always rammed and you wouldn't choose to go there if you wanted a quiet place at any time let alone now.

If all else fails, offer a bored child some helpful and constructive domestic task.

This always works. Tidying their room is a suggestion which immediately results in them finding something to do round here Grin

It's harder as they get older as they aren't impressed with a picnic at the park and they end up wanting to play on screens all day, because that's what their mates are doing.

There is no reason why they can't enjoy a picnic in the park. You just mix it with other activities as well, my teenager likes to play on the console with his mates but it's not all that he enjoys doing. I just asked him what he'd think if it was all he did all summer, he wouldn't prefer it as it'd be boring.

I have a toddler and a baby. There is nowhere affordable to go when it is very hot or raining for days on end, it’s all barred to toddlers, and I can’t afford to take them to the zoo or a NT property every day.

You don't need to entertain the baby, a cuddle and a toy with interesting texture or time looking at pictures or flowers will do that, they lose interest very quickly and so you can entertain them easily - a bunch of keys, a saucepan, anything can be a fun toy.

As for the toddler, simple pleasures - a bucket of water in hot weather, do some gardening (plant a window box if you don't have a garden, make mud pies, show them how you make daisy chains (you can do it with dandelions for hands that can't do it with daisies), go on walks,
finger/hand/foot painting, make your own play dough, sack races (use an old pillowcase) - how fast can they get down the garden/lounge and back again. Nature treasure hunts - can they find 5 leaves with yellow on, 2 acorns etc. Lie on the grass and look at the sky - how many different animals can they see in the clouds.

Even with a car, driving 50 miles there and 50 back can make a dent in someone’s tight budget

We camp for weekends at a site less than 10 miles from home. It costs £10 for the site, we take a picnic with us for dinner on the first night, we don't have a cool box but full a bucket with cold water and put drinks in that (long life milk, bottle of water filled at home before we leave). We take the oven shelf and an old saucepan and make one pot meals over a fire pit sometimes but other (most) times we have cold meats and cheeses picked up from a local shop, some crusty bread rolls, bit of fruit. No cooking required.

We don't have the money to do what most of you do to entertain your children in a normal summer, we just use our imagination and have a good time each summer. Each summer it amazes me how much money people throw at entertaining their children when it's not necessary.

Rockbird · 12/08/2020 15:13

Odeon has been running kids films including Trolls and Lego movie. Took DD1 to Harry Potter last week, she'd never seen it on a big screen before.

winewolfhowls · 12/08/2020 15:17

At first I thought this was a joke thread! Nearly everything is open except swimming and soft play and people with common sense would be avoiding these places anyway.
There's loads of free or nearly free stuff you can do. Teenagers I can see as being more difficult but I would turf them out with a bike, a mate, and a picnic and get them to explore themselves.

WiddlinDiddlin · 12/08/2020 15:21

Hmmm...

It's almost as if theres a serious, deadly virus, a pandemic if you will, that's causing these issues...

They still have the internet, phones, tv's, billions of TV channels, computer games, bicycles, their own legs, imaginations, paper, pencils, art stuff, craft stuff, board games, parks, fields, countryside....

Todays 'lockdown' child still has significantly more in-home entertainment on hand, than the 80's non-lockdown child had.~

Here's a grip, you seem like you need one. Also, a wobble for your head.