I have been friends with a woman for over 4 years now. Here is a little background to our friendship. My sisters older sister who was my age and in my class at school was murdered 14 years ago. The whole family has naturally been torn apart after this tragedy, but even before it happened, they were pretty unhealthy and enmeshed.
My friend has a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder (not that labels mean anything to me because I look at the person). My friend was alwaus a quiet person but was very dependant on me. I did notice that she would cut people out of her life over very small things.
Fast forward to the last few weeks. Her behaviour became really erratic and she was constantly phoning me at all hours crying. In the end I became like a therapist for her. She lives with her parents and ran away from home to go and stay with someone else.
We met up last Friday and I don't think I was able to get a word in because she spoke about herself constantly. She kept saying that she was so glad she had 'found her sister in me' and even began to call me her sisters name. Towards the end of the day, I became quite tired and drained and went quiet. I also asked her if she could stop speaking about one thing because it was quite upsetting. After that she became really nasty and snappy with me and walked away with the friend she is staying with letting me walk back to the bus which was 2 miles away.
When I got home I texted her and also called her but she continued to ignore me and has done ever since. I'm pretty upset by it all because I've tried to be a good friend to her and I can't think of what has actually warranted this silent treatment. She has lots of support in her life in the form of therapists so she is attending therapy. I'm just baffled by how she went from totalling discarding me in such a short space of time when the day before claimed I was the only one in her life who understood her.
I feel I cannot carry on this friendship but feel guilty at the same time. Aibu to want to let this person go?