Why do the guys I like never seem to like me back

[EmilyJack92]

I'm 28 and I've noticed this has been a pattern since I had my first crush at 13 years old. I will really like/fancy a guy but it always seems to be one sided and they end up with someone else. :( I get male attention, but only from ones I am not particularly interested in. It makes me sad that I've only had relationships where I've "settled", I've not once felt that spark or had excitement before a date. I've never been in love. To be fair, I never told the ones I liked outright that I fancied them, should I be doing? I'm a nice person and I get told that I'm attractive, so I hope I'm not the problem. Any advice really appreciated.

maybe the question should be , why do you never like back the guys who DO like you? do you chase basterds? if so i fell ya, but you got to realise to yourself that there are nice guys who just want to love you and be loved and its not their fault they are not basterds,.. i actually realised once that if this guy that liked me was a bastered i would go out with him and it woke me up and made me raelise, omg i like bastereds lol. i matured a lot since then and im so glad i did.

Describe the men you like both in looks and personality. Plus how do you know them, are they in your friendship circle, a work colleague basically are they people you have spent a lot of time with. Do you share common interests.

I don't think I chase bastards, all the guys I've liked have seemed decent. If I had to describe them I would say, looks wise, tall, fair haired, nice faces, good looking (to me). Personality, great sense of humour, I suppose sporty? Laid back, likeable. They've had a range of jobs from waiter to police officer. I haven't spent a lot of time with any of them and met them all in different ways, these are people I was just immediately drawn to.

no-one has to explain or justify their taste in men - the fact is you either fancy them or you do not!

Perhaps you are more relaxed, natural, confident/play it cool with the guys you are not interested in?

@EmilyJack92

I don't think I chase bastards, all the guys I've liked have seemed decent. If I had to describe them I would say, looks wise, tall, fair haired, nice faces, good looking (to me). Personality, great sense of humour, I suppose sporty? Laid back, likeable. They've had a range of jobs from waiter to police officer. I haven't spent a lot of time with any of them and met them all in different ways, these are people I was just immediately drawn to.

But you don't know that any of them didn't like you back because you didn't tell them you liked them?

True, I suppose I was scared to make the first move. I've never actually made the first move with anyone. Maybe, just maybe I'll try that

Also, I've noticed with the guys I like I always worry that I'm not good enough for them.

There could be many reasons.
Sometimes your preferences are also why you're single. If you're attracted to baduns, they won't treat you right. If you're attracted to rich Asian guys but you only meet poor Welsh guys. If you're drawn to quiet types, that are unlikely to make first move, you'll have to be a bit more proactive.