Broody and sad after hysterectomy

[Colycola]

I had a hysterectomy just before lockdown for medical reasons. I had fully accepted that I would not be having more children and anyway my husband has had the snip so not strictly possible.

Over the last week or so I have felt unbelievably broody and sad and feel upset that I will never again be pregnant and have a baby.

My dc are late teens and I’m the wrong side of 40 anyway but all of a sudden it’s just hit me.

Has anyone else felt like this?

I was sterilised 3 years ago and can totally relate. It crushes me every day.

Just here to give you a hug really. It's a mega shakedown of hormones I bet... I'm not sure if this is helpful advice but I would try to rationalise if you would have tried again - especially given your OH had the snip, I'm guessing it was unlikely.

Have you had a chat with anyone about it?

No not really. We don’t have children together we have them separately. I just feel sad that we will never share that experience. He had had the snip before I met him anyway.

Ah I see, I can completely appreciate your feelings. I'm sure you'll get some wonderful advice and perspectives on here. I'll just stick with the hug

Yes. The sadness sometimes overwhelms me, just for a short time, for the family I always wanted but won’t have. (1 IVF child, 3 losses)
I then remember the living hell I lived through each month for over a decade and I think ‘thank God I finally had the op’. It has been life changing.
It’s natural to feel upset op, still very early days for you the feelings will diminish and be less painful but will still pop up occasionally. I hope, physically, you are now feeling well after your operation.

Slightly different but I felt incredibly broody after my husband had the snip. I think it was just knowing that chapter in our lives was 100% over. It pasted after a few months.

I was told after my last baby that I probably couldn't conceive again and if I did it would be an "exceptionally high risk preganncy" - I was pretty lucky (or had a great NHS team) to get through that delivery alive. I only ever wanted 2 anyway and I'm also 40 now. But my sister had a baby recently and my god am I broody. Hard isnt it? Lots of sympathy xx

while dh had the snip there was always that remote chance you'd get pregnant but now the door is permantly shut it's a bit like a breavement. it will take time to settle down but you need to be kind to yourself. it will get easier in time.