DD is very young, not verbal, her dad was extremely abusive and controlling. Even towards her, threatening to beat her, calling her nasty names, no interest, neglecting her and throwing water in her face when she cried. Currently his has access ordered by court. Had a number of issues with him being agressive at handover etc. Anyway on three occasions I noticed dd coming back with hand marks on her forearm, like someone has grabbed her. First time it happened I wasn't too sure so I just documented it, second time I took photos and a friend contacted the nspcc, this third time I took dd to hospital ( was instructed to by nspcc to see if they were accidental ). This then triggered an emergency section 47 enquiry resulting in dd and I staying in hospital overnight and children services now involved to do an assessment however they've said they don't believe dd is in danger while in my care thankfully.
One question I keep getting is why I didn't ask ex how dd got the bruises, my issue is that whenever I have raised concerns it turns into him blaming everything on me and we get nowhere. I know they happened during contact as I check dd before contact and record handover's because of the abuse and there were no bruises. Social worker has said maybe dd fell and that's the cause for the bruises.. however they have concluded they are grab marks. My question is was I unreasonable to not ask ex before raising it even though a friend had already reported it ?