To ask if anyone has gone no contact with siblings

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Do you regret it? Has it been a long time since you had contact?

Oh, and it has been years. No regrets.

I'm 1 of 8 and only speak to two of my siblings. One I'm very close to and the other we chat occasionally but he lives miles away. No issues with not speaking to the others. One brother said he couldn't see my children because they are raised with blood money because of my husbands job and did I enjoy eating my food knowing that the money came from children deaths, life is much nicer without him!!

NC with a sister since September last year and so much happier like this.
She was arguing with my parents, SHE drew me into the argument herself and then told her solicitor that I 'got involved' and my name came up in a letter to my parents from her solicitor. She forgot to mention to her solicitor she was the one who involved me. I wrote back to the solicitor to say the truth and that my phone records show that she phoned me. From that day I've had no contact.
She uses her Dd as an object to try and manipulate people and get what she wants.
My parents are still in contact with her to try and see their granddaughter and she continues to cause them stress the whole time. I wish they could cut contact aswell.

So pleased to not have her in my life. I do miss her sometimes but I’m so much better off without her constant drama and misery (not to mention her awful husband and step son) ruining my happiness. The benefits of not having her in my life far outweigh any negatives.

Two siblings. One great.

Will not see the other one of them ever again after one of our parents goes.

Have to accept some sharing of said parent for "occasions"

Bare minimum contact

Genuinely the bane of my life. Would not give a shit if I never saw them again.

Yes NC with SIL. Best decision we ever made! Hit DC when he was a toddler for no reason, said she could beat the autism out of him and then stole £300 of HIS money and never paid it back.
We’re so much happier without her draining our energy 24/7.

I’m no contact with one sister after an epic falling out over Corbyn of all people. She thinks the sun shines out of his arse, and she is anti-Semitic and racist towards black people. She smokes weed everyday, and is still doing coke in her late 50’s. Everything is a conspiracy. She lies and steals and I just got fed up with it all and told her to fuck off and never looked back.

My other sister is a passive aggressive bully and I would like to be NC with her but I would miss my nieces and nephews too much. I do need to think about it though as my MH suffers terribly when she’s on one of her rages against everyone around her.

Yes. My brother and sister from my dad's second marriage. My sister has never even met my sons who are now 6 years old and it's been about 2 years since I saw my brother.
They can't be bothered and I stopped caring and reaching out. They're nothing to me.

NC with identical twin for 6 years. I don't regret it at all. She bullied, belittled and treated me as her underling all our life. When my ds was born, I saw she treated him the same. I didn't want him to grow up feeling he was never good enough, like I felt. When she ignored his second birthday, it was like a switch flicked inside me. I went no contact and meant it.
Should have done it sooner. Ive got married, passed my driving test, all things she told me I'd never do as I wasn't good enough.
It's sad but freeing.

Yes! Almost 2 years in and it’s actually lovely. We just need to move away now x

@GinDrinker00

Yes NC with SIL. Best decision we ever made! Hit DC when he was a toddler for no reason, said she could beat the autism out of him and then stole £300 of HIS money and never paid it back. We’re so much happier without her draining our energy 24/7.

Omg what an evil cow! Ive got a sister who im nc with who had this sort of attitude, always ranted that adhd & autism didn't exist and the kids just needed a good smack, a disgusting attitude at the best of times, but at the time she worked in a special needs school! (Not a teacher thankfully!) also really racist and selectively homophobic, thank god she's out of my life!

2 years of NC here. A few years of LC before that. No regrets at all. My DS has always been awful. It's not totally her fault, our parents were not much fun to grow up with , but she is a horrid person
My DM was the youngest of two girls and always felt (wrongly, but very nastily and vocally to my grandparents even as a grown woman) that her older sister was favoured.
In her own twisted way my DM made it her mission to ensure my DS didn't feel the same way and as a result my DS thinks she is utterly blameless in every horrendous situation she gets into.
Just like my DM she has no friends and so I tried hard to be there for her for a long time but she is just awful.
She sadly became an alcoholic in her thirties, has had her kids removed several times and started taking her every misery out on me because I have made a more pleasant life for myself and my family.
I feel sad that my kids don't get to know their cousins but it's a price worth paying.
She sent me a friend request a couple months ago and feeling totally happy to ignore it was assurance for me that I had made the right choice.

Gone NC with brother about 8 years ago and i've never regretted it. Also went NC with grand parents around the same time, also never regretted it but they seem to be wanting to get to know me now i've had my daughter, fat chance of that happening! NC for a reason

Yep. About 6 years ago she tried to destroy me after many, many years of lies and manipulation. I went NC from then. Foolishly I gave into family pressure and went to her wedding some years afterwards - biggest mistake of my life as it sent me into a massive MH crisis. Now under more pressure as she’s divorced and blames all her behaviour on her exDH, though almost all of it predates him. She’s dead to me.

I didn’t really ‘go NC’ in the sense that I made the intentional decision to have no relationship going forward. But I haven’t had any contact with my half-brother since shortly after my dad’s funeral, which was 21 years ago. I just had no interest in ever speaking to him again so I didn’t. And thankfully, he’s never tried to contact me either.

Nope, absolutely no regrets. He wasn’t a nice person (nor was my dad either really) and was a real jerk about my dad’s funeral and estate - which at 18, I had to plan, pay for and be executor of his will. It was massively stressful for me when I was still a teenager and grieving. Sometimes I even forget he existed and it’s fine. I have gone on to have a happy life and tend to live by the words that you can’t choose your family. You do only get one life though so no reason to put up with other people’s drama.

I was nc with my brother for 5 years after several years of bullshit. It really was the most relaxed of been. He’s crawled out of the woodwork a few months ago due to issues with a parent (I suspect he thought they were going to die and might come into some money) and has been exceptionally (on the surface) behaved. I have no tolerance for him and no trust whatsoever. I’ve not forgiven him and if he told me he didn’t want to ever speak to me again I’d be fine about it. Only reason I still interact (rarely) as it gives my daughter access to her cousins and me access to my nieces and nephews. I’m currently trying to grey rock him in a bid to make him so bored with me he fucks off somewhere without upsetting the Apple cart too badly and loosing access to the children. Fucking nightmare!!

Yes,my older brother. We fell out over my late DMs will. He was one of the executors of the will and severely dragged his heels over getting probate done. He left me totally out of the loop with how everything was progressing,lying to me and saying that he'd spoken to the solicitor when he'd actually done no such thing. Yet I could hear him on the phone several times a week discussing everything with his girlfriend. My mum left a sizeable sum of money to be shared equally between the two of us,plus her house. One of the coditions of her will was that he could continue living in the house until he wanted to sell,then we would equally share the proceeds of the sale. For some reason,he initially thought that when it was sold,HE would pocket ALL of the money. I overheard him on the phone saying to his girlfriend, 'It's a fucking piss take. Why should she get half of it when she already has a roof over her head? I'm going to have buy somewhere else out of my share!'. Well pardon me for not being too sympathetic,but maybe he should have thought of that when he decided to free load off our mother,rather than moving out and getting a place of his own!
He also thought that the cash inheritance should be shared 75/25 in his favour,because he now had a house to run. Well,sell it and move somewhere cheaper! The final straws were:- 1) Him telling me that he'd have to get my mum's 3 cats put to sleep as he couldn't afford to keep them (he didn't,and he wouldn't,his girlfriend would never have spoken to him again if he had). And 2:- About 10 months after my mum died,I was rushed into hospital with a strangulated umbilical hernia. I was literally a day away from death. When my Dd phoned him and told him this,his first words were 'Is that all you phoned to tell me? I was in bed asleep'. It was 8 pm.
We've not spoken since February 2013. And you know what? I don't miss him one little bit.

My sister hasnt spoken to me for two months. Shes very toxic and forever falling out with other members of the family but I tended to get on om with her as I wont take her shit and she knows it. I changed plans over something to do with my child (typical dont want to say, too outing) and it didnt coincide with her own plans (which I hadnt been consulted on at all and while it would work out well for her there was no benefit at all to me) and she hasnt spoken to me since. It caused me a lot of distress at the time with my mother who is also toxic. I've gone low contact with her now. The dust has settled and really the whole thing has has no or perhaps a slightly positive impact on me. I'm not sure we will ever get to the point of being back in contact as although I am open to receiving an apology, I cant see her ever getting out of her permanent victim bubble enough to realise I am owed one.

NC with my brother for for many years, with a brief interval when we both had children, but NC for the last 6 years. Absolutely no regrets. He and his wife are vile people and my life is much much nicer without them in it. I do feel sorry for his kids, but I barely knew them so they won't have noticed. My DP's felt quite sad about having grandchildren out there that they don't know but time is a healer, and they have a lot of contact with my kids, who adore them

Had been LC with DSis and DM for a while anyway. The referendum lead me to find out they are vicious racists. I cut them both off. Best thing I ever did.

Yes, over ten years now. Much less drama and accusations.

you wouldn't believe the things my sister said to the police about me when she had her first psychotic episode - luckily the Police didn't believe her either, in the end. So, I have been no contact with her for the best part of 25 years, because if I'm never in her company she can't accuse me of things that threaten my liberty and family. It is heartbreaking.

We have since met a couple of times, 10 years ago when our mother was dying - always in public, in company. I had given up my work to move in with mother and father once she was diagnosed terminal - sister had the Police round, had phoned to say father and I were abusing our dying mother.

I'll be staying NC for good.

Yep, brother.

Despite being Godmother to his children and me being Ofsted registered for 20+ years with more childcare quals than I can throw a stick at, I was the only family member never allowed a relationship with them.

He’d cancel seeing us on the day they were due but see his in-laws most weekends. He paid babysitters and had his in-laws as Godparents who were the favourites.

2 weeks before our wedding they announced their engagement and their wedding was two weeks before our first anniversary. Suspicious timings, right?!

We only ever made one request, with them knowing we had been undergoing fertility treatment for a decade, which was to treat us ‘normally’ when they got pregnant. No special treatment.
So of course, they called us from the hospital carpark of the 6 week scan, asked us to keep it to ourselves while we were dealing with our own grief and having to keep their news to ourselves.

It is in my Will that they are not to attend my funeral and I don’t care if SIL reads this. She can rot in Hell where she belongs.

It would be different if he’d taken ownership of his truly appalling behaviour.

I’m NC with one of my sisters. She’s a vile, poisonous toxic bitch and my life is immeasurably better without her in it.