To find people who won't talk about their feelings extremely frustrating

[Duggeeismysaviour]

I mean the kind of person (think soneone close - eg family member) who is behaving in a quiet and snappy manner. Moody and not trying to hide that, but not saying why.

Even worse is when you ask what's up, is there anything you can do to help and they say "nothing, nothing's wrong" then continue to stonewall you and huff around.

My mum is very much like this, so perhaps I'm over sensitive to it, and have deliberately gone the other way with my communication. I'm also very sensitive to either people's moods (another fault of mine perhaps)
I am absolutely prone to bouts of moodiness, and flashes of angry grumps- but I never ever go quiet with people or let them guess what's wrong. I never take my moods out on other people. I'm open and sometimes apologetic when I'm in a shitty mood and cannot bring myself out of it (I'll happily tell people I'm not pissed off with them, and I'm sorry to be so moody but I had a terrible night with the baby etc and am trying to snap out if it/will be fine soon). I am particularly careful to never take my moods out on other people (as it is almost never to do with them). I remember years ago getting a lift with friends (a couple) and the woman said immediately when I got into the car "sorry if the atmosphere is a bit off, we just had an argument" That was such a breathe of fresh air to me, and the car ride was totally normal after a very short while. It really stuck with me, the openness and honesty

I am not saying I'm wonderful or that I do everything the right way, but I cannot abide the whole "nothings wrong" when something clearly is. At least say you're unhappy and need some space rather than clamming up. It makes me so frustrated when people are incapable of being open .

I'm sure I will have many people saying now that I cannot demand that others act a certain way. But right now (today) my MIL (who I usually get on with) is being rather shitty with me and I'm clueless as to whether its something I have done to affront her. These episodes are increasing in frequency. Just talk, people! Let it all out!!

There's nothing more annoying than someone who insists that there's something wrong when there isn't, or who complains the other person is in a mood when they're not. It's guaranteed to rub someone up the wrong way. Maybe there isn't anything wrong.

Fair enough but I'm not emotionally illiterate. I can guarantee that in this particular instance, there is something wrong. I never insist something is wrong with anyone. If I have mistakenly read someone's mood as being down, and asked lightly what's up, it is usually clear from their answer and subsequent behaviour that everything is fine. Plus, I will only ask once, I won't keep hounding the poor person. But the cloud that a grump who insists they are fine can cast over everything is something I find quite difficult.

You sound like an empath op

You shouldn’t apologise for being open and not projecting your mood into others. That shows awareness.